Post # 1
No one IRL knows we are actually TTC. So I have to give some of these people a pass, but seriously, people can not stop saying stupid stuff!
Today I had a doctors appointment (with my obgyn & I didn’t tell anyone that) and when I got back someone sent me a message saying… “so when is the due date” They said they “just had a feeling”. seriously, WTF people!?!?!?!
Also, anytime I say I am feeling ill the first thing out of people’s mouth is “are you pregnant”. I want to yell at them and say NO I’M NOT, THANKS FOR REMINDING ME DOUCHEBAG!
My birthday is coming up I am about to be 32 and if one more person asks me why I havent had kids yet or that I need to hurry up and get started because I am behind I will punch them. Seriously, I don’t care if it’s my little grandma. POW. Punch right to the mouth.
— obviously I wouldn’t punch someone, I am just really hormonal this week. Whew that felt good to vent.
What are your TTC annoyances? let em out girls…it feels pretty darn good!
Post # 3
When people look at you like you have the plague bc SOMEHOW they found out its been a year and “you’re still NOT pregnant?!” or the response “well you are 30…” Yep I am, about to be 31. Sorry I decided not to get knocked up in high school or by some random hookup and decided to have a life first and meet my soulmate to settle down with and then decide to bring kids into this crazy a** world. Pure ignorance. People have no tact and I want to punch them right in the face too. But I am pretty sharp with my tongue and while thats not always good, I have ways at getting back at people that drive me to it.
Post # 4
I hate it when people tell me to “just relax and it will happen”. Um no its not. I am infertile. And even after I tell them that they still don’t get it and they say “well it will happen when its meant to be”. UGH.
Post # 5
@panterapeach: At least if you punched grandma you wouldn’t have to worry about the family saying anything to you anymore. 🙂
Post # 6
@camrie: no joke,
If the punching eliminates wedding related questions as well, I may be tempted.
(sorry grandma, take one for the team)
Post # 7
@sweetkate: The relax thing is so annyoing because how can you relax.
I am so sorry to hear about your fertility issues. Hopefully you and DH will come up with a plan on how to have a family even if they can’t be biological.
Post # 8
@MissGreen: exactly, yeah I can’t help it I didnt meet my DF till later in life. I was married before and I never wanted kids with that fool.
Post # 9
I agree with a pp. Saying it’ll happen when it’s meant to is one of the worst things you can say. We want it to happen NOW. I know it shouldn’t make me upset, but my DH is convinced I’m pregnant every month…so when I ask him if he feel like we’ll ever have a baby he’ll say “we already are.” It makes it that much worse when I get the BFN…
Post # 10
@JewishBride: awww that is so sweet yet so heartbreaking. A BFN is bad enough. I’m glad your DH is positve though. A great attitude makes a huge difference.
Post # 11
Ugh, I hated hearing that stuff well before I even considered TTC. It is annoying. And I usually ended up feeling bad for being so annoyed, because for the most part people mean no harm. But, those kinda empty statements, or the indirectly judgemental ones, they don’t help.
But just wait, when you are actually pregnant, the annoying questions do not end. They’re just different.
Post # 12
@jennifer_espos: Dang, the annoyance never ends does it!
I know I too feel bad to for being so mad because people don’t know I am TTC. I would hope that if they did they wouldn’t say stupid stuff but I imagine the stupidity would continue even if they knew I was TTC.
Post # 13
@sweetkate: I totally get it. I get that a lot too. After the miscarriage, then major surgery to remove the 15 fibroids, plus my right fallopian tube, I’m in a race against time with the fibroids returning, my age (almost 34 now), the lengthy time it could take because I only have my left fallopian tube. People say, “Oh don’t worry, I’m sure it’ll happen..” Nothing worse you can say to somebody in this situation. I totally understand.
Post # 14
I sort of know the feeling… my hubs isn’t quite ready, (but I am!) so we are waiting a few months before we start trying. The worst is when HIS family nags us about when we are starting TTC. I have to just grin and say that “we” aren’t ready yet…
Post # 15
OMG i so feel you on this post… We haven’t really told anyone that we are TTC
So when everyone asks we say “Oh maybe sometime this year” Like really is no ones buisness.. the worse is DH’s aunt blasting on FB.. DH put something like i love my life with my wife and doggies and soon to be kids.. DH didn’t mean we are pregnant so shes like wow im so happy for you… hes like um not yet! and shes like well get busy what are you waiting for.. Really? Do you need to be in our sexlife? LOL like we are getting busy its jsut not working yet. PPL are so annoying! LOL
the worst is in your TWW and stupid AF comes!
Post # 16
I made the mistake of telling my best friend I was going off birth control (she was the only one I told). That sucked because for over three months, every time I saw her she asked if I was pregnant yet. It got really annoying.
I can’t be too harsh though, because my coworker told me he and his wife were going to TTC right after the wedding, and it was tempting to ask what was going on with that. I didn’t, but I didn’t have to because he usually told me what was new. In fact, he just left to take another job, and right before he left, he told me his wife thought she was and was going to take a test a few days later. Now I’ll never know…
People mean well, but they can be so clueless sometimes.