- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
The OH and I had the mother of all arguments last night, our first big argument. And we’re utterly bewildered now. The stupid thing is we 100% agree with each other but we’re both so scared of this whole ‘being a grown up’ and deciding when to TTC lark that we just feel like we’re on different sides.
Basically we’ve been together 8yrs (im 23, hes 24 getting on 25), married 2 months. The OH isnt really a talker, hes a brooder. Im a talker and say every tiny thing that pops into my head, even though i try not too. I’ve tried so hard to not talk too much about babies but basically since getting married everyone presumes your preggers if you mention babies. I have noone to talk to anymore. So i talk to OH about it more.. and now ive been kinda going on about it. And so BOOM masive argument.
Basically OH is terrified that it was 2yrs till i MAYBE come off pill…. now that engagement/wedding is done and a year has passed its 1yr. So he’s had a freak out that i am ‘setting dates’ and ‘moving my timeline forward’… but its just that time has passed so obviously its closer now than a year ago.
We’re scared of making this huge decision. Im feeling like i have noone to talk to. And hes feeling like im talking about it alot because i want babies. (NOT YET!)
Anyone else stuck in this ridiculous situation of being terrified of the impending TTC (whilst also sooo excited that its still on the cards for the future!).
Im a lost bee right now…