Post # 1
hello bees, my husband and i have been married for about 7 months and his father has already had 2 heart attacks….we think he’s starting to get ill again. My husbands sister had a boy so Pops already has a grandchild but they live all the way in kentucky and we live in north carolina. so he really hasnt seen his grandchild since his grandchild was like 3 and he’s 10 almost 11 now.
Should my husband and i ttc before anything happns to pops? is it a wise idea or will it add to stress. kinda nervous about bringing this up to my husband since im on birth control and we really arent ttc right now. REALLY NEED ADVICE AHHHH!!!!!
Post # 3
Seeing as you only have one poll option, I think you want us to tell you what you want to hear. No one can tell you when to have children.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I would not let the health status of a family member affect my decision on whether or not I am ready to take on the responsibility of providing for the full needs of another human life.
Post # 5
@fiftyshadesofbride: I think you should choose to ttc when it makes sense for you and your husband, and not take into account any external factors. If you aren’t ready for a child, bringing one into the world just so his father can meet him is not necessarily a good reason. I understand the intentions and the sentiment, and why you would want to do that, but you need to look at you and your husband’s situation as a whole right now: financially, emotionally, mentally, physically, and ask yourself if a child truly fits into your life at this time. If the answer is yes, then go for it, but if not, then I would advise you to wait and not plan this around your husband’s father.
Post # 6
@fiftyshadesofbride: I have to agree with the other ladies. I don’t think I would want to take on the stress of TTC if I wasn’t 100% on board with it. I get why you guys would consider this, but remember, even if you start TTC right now, it doesn’t mean you’ll get pregnant right away. So, in my opinion, it would bring on too much stress for you two and maybe you should wait until you’re totally sure that you are ready and able to take on TTC.
Post # 7
@Sunflower–girl: i actually did 3 poll options they must not have showed up…..iwas looking more for advice not criticism but thanks anyways.
we’ve talked about ttc just not sure when the right time is especially with his dad. his dad wants his grandbabbies around and has really made him depressed he cant see his other grandkids.