Post # 1
Would you TTC a couple months before your wedding if your doctor strongly recommended that you do so because she believes you have a condition that will get worse and will eventually prevent you from becoming pregnant?
Post # 5
Probably not. What condition does the doctor “believe” (as in THINKS you have, but hasn’t diagnosed?) you have that delaying trying for a few months longer would really make that much difference?
I would try to move up the wedding date before I intentionally tried to get pregnant before my wedding. There was a similar question asked a few weeks ago, and my reasoning here would be the same. There is no guarantee you’d be pregnant on your wedding day, and no guarantee that you’d have symptoms. But I felt like rubbish the first several weeks of my pregnancy. I was tired and nauseated almost constantly. I would be hungry, eat a few bites of my food, then not be hungry/not want that food anymore. I didn’t have any bloating, but a lot of women do, so you could have trouble fitting into your dress or at least be very uncomfortable. All things I would not want to experience on my wedding day.
Post # 6
Endometriosis. I started my period when I was 11 and grew up with debilitating cramps. My mother had it and probably should have had a hysterectomy instead of getting other procedures over the years that couldn’t stop her from bleeding more days than not. I suspect my grandma did. She had a hysterectomy in her 30s. Both of them had all their kids before they were my age, so the fact that they were able to have kids isn’t really that comforting. I am 29 (30 in October) my periods are rapidly becoming less and less regular. She is sending me for an ultrasound to rule out any masses on my ovaries/in my uterus. She basically said that I am a textbook case and she is as sure she can be without cutting open my abdomen. It would suck to be sick from being pregnant on my wedding day, but as it is, I will most likely be on my period, during which I have horrible diarrhea, horrible back aches, a horrible mood, and horrible cramps, and am bloated. Every time I am on my period at least one student thinks I am pregnant. (I am pretty skinny, which makes the bloated abdomen more pronounced, and some kids have NO filter. LOL.) So I am pretty much guaranteed to be uncomfortable either way.
Post # 7
sjhanddab2014: Yes, go for it!! We are TTC and our wedding is in October. We don’t have any medical issues that we are aware of. We just want a baby 🙂
Post # 8
I say go for it! We are getting married in September and started TTC in July. I have lymphedema in my legs (swelling) that gets really bad during summer. I really don’t want to be 5-9 months pregnant in summer because my doctor has stated that it might require me to be on bed rest. So in order to avoid that we started trying in July and will try to October and than take a break for 6 months. At the end of the day the decision is between you and your FI and if that’s what you two want than I say do it!
Post # 9
they found a fibroid about a year before i was married (wasn’t even engaged yet) and gyn said get pregnant asap. i didn’t put pressue on DH, but we knew we were getting married.
after engagement, i wanted to TTC before wedding. he wasn’t ready and i couldn’t convince him to start earlier.
now, 12 cycles after wedding, i’m still not pregnant. i’ve been through all the testing and the fibroid isn’t causing any isssues as far as they can tell.
would starting a few months before the wedding have made a difference? who knows. BTW, I’m 33 and DH is 36 currently.
good luck to you and i hope it all works out for you.
Post # 10
sjhanddab2014: I would!! We are getting married in December and have just started TTC and have no medical conditions preventing anything, so go for it!
Post # 11
sjhanddab2014: If a baby is what you both want, go for it. There is never a right time so before or after the wedding wouldn’t make a difference. You luckily have some information/advice from a doctor so I would follow their advice if I were you.
It’s a decision you need to make with your FI and make sure you are both ready 🙂 xx
Post # 12
For a couple of months, no I would not. I’d rather wait than risk being sick as a dog on my wedding day.
Post # 13
we have a medical reason to TTC ASAP, so we’re doing it before we’re married. i’d say go for it!
Post # 14
Thank you everyone for your opinions and kind words. I did talk with it at length with my fiance before even posting this and was pretty sure I knew where we stood. Under normal circumstances, I am sure it might seem impatient to some to try before a wedding when one is so close to the wedding. But these aren’t normal circumstances. I know statistically speaking, I probably won’t get pregnant for a while even if we do start trying now. But I think if I get more bad news six months from now, I will always wonder if maybe this month or September were kind of my last chances, the door closing if you will, and I passed up what could have been my last chances. I think I will be able to deal with infertility later on if it becomes a definite issue if I at least know that we did everything we could. We have been together for over four years, we have a home with a room for a nursery picked out, we picked out potential names, we’ve talked about how we want to raise our kids, we have stable jobs…We’re just about as ready as we’re going to be. I called my mom crying from the doctor’s parking lot and told her I was worried that she and my extended family would judge me if I did get lucky and have a baby seven months after our wedding and she said not to worry about it, do what I need to do. And my FMIL gave us her blessing and said if people judge us, **** them. LOL, she is a lot less traditional than my mom. Anyway, I am really really scared they are going to find something bad on the ultrasounds they do Friday. (To be honest, I am terrified even if they don’t find anything…I didn’t realize that one of them is the internal one with the little wand thingy until last night when I read the referral code…that made for unpleasant dreams.) But if there is nothing catastrophic, I suppose it’s game time!
Post # 15
sjhanddab2014: Absolutely. No question about it.
But, my FI and I really want to have a family. If it wasn’t a medical condition I would absolutely not TTC before the wedding. We’re planning on being married for a year before we TTC.