Post # 1
Darling Husband is literally going to give me an anxiety attack, one day he’s ALL FOR TTC, the next day he’s getting a condom out. He tells our dog (We’re those people lol) that i’m going to give her a brother or sister, then he pulls a condom out. He always strolls through the baby section at Target, then when I ask about TTC he says “we’ll just see what happens”
On top of that his troll of a sister is showing me baby pictures, maternity pictures & nurserys on Pinterest EVERY TIME I see her. She’s going to get pregnant this year with her 2nd, I just have a gut feeling about that & I know it’s selfish but I’ll be devastated if she gets pregnant before Darling Husband & I do because she’s so good at stealing my thunder. She has always went on and on about how being a Stay-At-Home Mom is for lazy women, because she knows thats what I want to do so so badly. As soon as Darling Husband and I get married, she quits her job to become a Stay-At-Home Mom ..to the child she hasn’t spent more than an hour a day with since she was born 3 years ago. I literally wish so many hateful things upon her. Rah!
What is happening to me?
Post # 3
Ok well… I’d say the first step to a peaceful TTC experience is to focus on getting on the same page as your husband and stop devoting so much negative energy to whatever it is your sister is doing.
Post # 4
@KatyElle: this. exactly this.
Post # 5
I know it’s frustrating but ignore you SIL. You have no control over what she does or the decisions she makes for her family. You will be exhausted if you focus your energy on her.
But you really need to talk to Darling Husband because the two of you need to be on the same page. Sit him down and have a serious conversation. Hope it goes well.
Post # 6
@roxy821: thanks, I’m going to talk to him tonight & see what happens. I am so tired of hating her, but I can’t stop & I can’t distance myself from her to be able to calm down from her.
@KatyElle: I knooww, but I don’t know what it is about her, I.cannot.stand.her. Did I mention she lives across the hall from me? Darling Husband and I announced we were moving, so she broke her lease to move in the same weekend as us..18 steps away. Uhg.
Post # 7
@Kkaattii- I spent years being so mad at some of the women around me who take advantage of the system and have these kids and get to stay at home with them. It took up so much energy and doesn’t solve any of my issues if I focus on them. Moving sounds like a good idea. Seperate yourself and try to focus on your own decisions.
Post # 8
Maybe it would help to get Darling Husband to agree to a specific timeline. That’s what we did– we picked a date to start TTC (July 17th!). It has helped Darling Husband feel less pressure while giving me a timeline to focus on and look forward to. Good luck!