I’m not TTC but I am TTA (Trying to Adopt), so I thought I’d add in my story. I don’t post much on the TTC boards, but I do follow a lot of the stories.
So who are you?
I’m 29 year old mother of 1, engaged to be married to my Fiance in two months!! We have a beautiful 7 year old boy, and he is seriously the light of our lives. We both wanted to have two kids, but due to unexpected complications, I’m not easily able to carry a baby to term. I was very lucky to be able to carry our boy with no issues. we tred multiple times to have another baby, but it just kept ending painfully, so we decided to stop TTC.
What do you (and your SO) do?
I work for a very large credit card company, managing their internal information system. I am SO fortunate because I get to work from home. I make a fairly decent living, and I have great benefits and a great retirement plan. I also moonlight as a baker and cake maker. Ive made the wedding cakes (or cupcakes, or cake pops) for the last 6 weddings ive been invited to.
My Fiance is the VP of a mid-size company that makes custom BMW parts/accessories. He makes a very decent living. Fiance also has his own side business Making and selling custom board games/game peices/accessories/etc. He also volunteers for our local regiment, and he is the communications coordinator for them. He’s very busy.
Where does TTC fit in terms of weddings, family, work, life, etc?
We made the decision to stop TTC several years ago, and made the decision to adopt about 1 year ago. We are hoping to adopt a relatively healthy 1-6 year old girl. We submitted all of our final paperwork in January of this year, and right now all we can do is wait. We are doing a public domestic adoption, which means that the costs are very low/non-existent, but the wait is long (the wait is usually long no matter what). We will probsbly have to wait a year to a year and a half until we can do the training/homestudy that is needed before you can be matched with a child.
Because we not looking for a newborn baby, that might shorten our wait time. However, because we are hoping for a girl who is relatively healthy, that might lengthen our wait time, so you never know. We don’t anticipate having a child in our home before 3 years.
Because the wait is so long, and right now there’s nothing we can really do besides wait, it’s not affecting our lives in anyway, we just carry on with our little family of three for the time being.
What are your plans once your baby is here?
Im going to love the crap out of that kid!! Lol!
in all seriousness, adopting is hard. It’s hard in everyone involved, and there will be a big adjustment period. How we all adjust will depend on the age of the child we bring home. I will get a year off paid from my job as maternity leave, which is SO wonderful, because it’ll give me a chance to bond 1-1 with my new baby girl. Our first year will probsbly be spent getting to know eachother, teaching her our rules, helping her to adjust to us, probably therapy for her or all of us, introducing her to the rest of our families, etc. Actually I’m tearing up here thinking about her being here, and having our family be complete. My son wants a sibling so bad, and Fiance and I want a daughter so bad! This child is so loved already, and we don’t even know her yet.