TTC – first Cycle and mad husband

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@earthbiscuit:  DEEEEEEP breath.  I found it most effective to keep my husband somewhat out of the loop.  I didn’t want to take the joy out of baby making for him, so while we agreed it was officially time to try, that was as much as he knew.  I temped and took OPKs on my own, and just tried to time BDing well.  He just thought I really liked him that week 🙂

TTC can make even the sanest of us totally insane.  I’d apologize, blame it on hormones, and promise him you’ll relax about it.  Take the blame and tuck him in.  Then get yourself some Wondfo OPKs, a chart on fertility friend, and go to town!

Post # 4
1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My advice:

1. Sex cannot be work, make it fun and enjoyable, not a job. 

2. Don’t tell him when you ovulate, it puts the pressure/stress on. Try to have sex once every other day all the time, then he will never know 🙂

3. Don’t wait until bedtime to have sex. If he has to wake up early done days, have sex before dinner and order delivery instead of spending time cooking. 

4. You have a window of about 5 days to get pregnant, so don’t panic about missing one night. As long as you have sex within a few days before ovulation or on O day you will be fine. 

Best of luck for a happy husband and a sticky baby!!

(on phone sorry for any errors) 

Post # 5
3009 posts
Sugar bee

@earthbiscuit:  Do you have a reason to believe you will have a hard time conceiving? I think charting and checking mucus and such can take the fun out of things. Why not just track your ovulation in general and have lots of sex that week? Try that for a few months and see what happens. 

Post # 6
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mamadingdong:  +1 just be natural about it. If you’re having trouble a few months down the line then you can be more serious and calculated about it. Good luck!

Post # 8
2740 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Hopefully this is your month and there won’t have to be a next time, otherwise, next time, don’t tell your husband that you’re ovulating or have egg white mucus or whatever.  Talk about pressure and zapping the fun and romance out of things!  Honestly I can’t imagine anything less sexy than any variation of “honey, I’m ovulating/have EWCM; we need to have sex RIGHT NOW!” so just keep that to yourself when you initiate.

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