TTC Help me with the anxiety please.

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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3989 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Feeling jealous is completely normal.  However, two months is no time at all.  And it can take a perfectly healthy woman up to a year to get pregnat, so don’t let all of this overwhelm you this early (yes, very early!) in the game.  It will only make this process a lot more difficult and straining.

Are you using OPK’s or charting?

Post # 4
Hostess
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@SJ77:  Pregnancy, if you really look into it, is such a complicated process that requires absolutely perfect timing. Some people luck into it, some people have ooops moments that are just timed well and others just can’t get the timing down just right possibly due to physical issues.

Try to remain calm and don’t stress, not yet anyway. Try to relax and enjoy the amazing process that you and your DH are in the midst of…you are trying to have a baby! How awesome is that?

I would definitely look into charting and using OPK’s. Both these options allow you to easily understand your body, your cycles and when you ovulate giving you a better chance to perfect your timing.

Best of luck and enjoy yourself!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@SJ77:  Have you been charting so you know exactly where in your cycle you are most fertile? Many women finds this relieves some of the stress and worry from the process. And even if it’s still stressful, at least you have some “data” to analyze and inform yourself with!

For me, I did not chart extensively (I tracked cervical mucus and used OPKs). I did work really hard (struggled much of the time) to accept that this worry and anxiety is preparation for motherhood. Just like we can’t control when we’ll get pregnant, stay pregnant, or when our babies decide to be born, we also can’t control their development and personal sucesses as their own people when we’re finally mothers. Learning to cope with all these emotions and accept what I cannot control has been a big thing for me. 

That said, this isn’t easy and I’m sorry you are having a hard time right now. ::hugs::

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I used to feel the same way, got really anxious about getting pregos before I was ready… now worried about not being able to conceive after I get off the pill… 

but I decided to not think about it that much, because even if I couldn’t get pregnant, I would love to adopt.  That’s just me though! 

Also, 2 months is not long at all… my aunt tried for two decades, went through invitro twice, both times unsuccessfuly… and she eventually gave up, but randomly a few years later, she got pregnant, it was truly a miracle!!!

Post # 9
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3989 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@SJ77:   Sounds like you need to try OPK’s. (I see that you have tried them).  Why were you so sure you were ovulating?  Certainly don’t trust that iphone app.

Post # 12
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409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@SJ77:  What your’e feeling is totally normal. TTCing is a consuming effort on you and your husband. If you’re not thrilled with taking basal temps, I suggest you get OPK strips. You can get them on Amazon and use them at your convenience. Basically you dip the strips in urine -2 days before your predicted ovulation and when the test line is as dark or darker than the control line, it indicate fertile window or that you’re ovulating. Keep in mind that your CM would be eggwhite like when you’re most fertile. The combination of all three (temp, CM-position and consistency, OPK) will probably help you with your anxiety since you’ll know what you can expect. Good luck!

Post # 14
Hostess
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@SJ77: Aps are only as good as the information we put into it unfortunately and it is based on limited information. I would look into using Fertility Friend as it takes into consideration CM, OPk’s, Charting, BD timing etc.

We used charting, OPK’s and monitored CM. I also took Mucinex every day during my FW the month we got our BFP. Maybe it made a difference and maybe it didn’t, who knows.

Post # 15
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3989 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@SJ77:   (This advice only applies if you have a regular 28 day cycle).  Start testing once a day at CD9.  Start testing twice a day at CD12 until you get a positive (the second line must be as dark or darker than the test line in order to be considered a positive).

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