(Closed) TTC + Holidaying / Vacation

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Nic01:  I wouldn’t want to travel around Europe while I was throwing up every morning (early pregnancy) or feeling like a beached whale (late pregnancy). I think the trip to Europe is something to do before TTC. Certainly I’d recommend doing that, unless due to your age you feel like you need to TTC sooner.

We went on a babymoon (last holiday together while I was pregnant), but that was a relaxing holiday here in Australia, not moving all around the place (which is how I always imagine a European holiday).

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

We’re trying on the honeymoon! So after that, we’ll have had our last big trip together!

But FI’s BFF has a kid and are trying about the same time we are, so we’ll probably just start doing more vacations together when kids DO happen!

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Nic01:  My feeling is you’d need 3 months (for booking / leave from work issues) so I guess I’d get into motion if my June/July period came. If you’re asking how to handle that emotionally then sorry I can’t help – we were fortunate enough to conceive on the 3rd month so long term TTC problems is something I can’t directly to relate to.

Financially, unless you are really struggling, my approach would be to take the holiday. Babies are such a total game changer anyway, I feel like they’re something you “adjust” for (i.e. adjust your lifestyle) rather than save for. (And here in Australia with universal health cover and baby bonus there aren’t really any birth costs). Again, sorry but I can’t comment on IVF.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Nic01:  I think you should just wait and see what happens! If you’re pregnant and you don’t feel like going in October 2014 then you will have that holiday money for baby things, or you can take a more relaxing babymoon! Everyone’s pregnancy is different – you may feel great and up for adventure, or you may feel terrible. We used to travel a lot, but now that I am pregnant I have been really sick throughout, but more important than that I have actually just feel like sticking close to home, so we have been staying in nice hotels even in town here and there when we feel like a “getaway”. Other preganant people I know loved travelling around when they were pregnant.

The only advice I would have is book as late as possible, or make sure that it’s canceable so that you have the flexibility to do what you want and what feels best for you when the time comes! One of my friends had a trip booked to France and then conceived on their first cycle trying, so she was in France 7-10 weeks and was really really sick and being somewhere where the food wasn’t bland and didn’t taste like home was pretty tough on her so she said in retrospect it would have been nice to have built in that flexibility to cancel or move the trip to when she felt better! 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Nic01:  Perhaps we’re not normal, but because it was only 3 months no we weren’t consciously saving any more than normal. After I get pregnant though, DH looked for (and found) a better job. Probably not the most responsible way to go about it, but that’s what we did.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We have our honeymoon planned for may 25th, -yes i was married in october haha- and were still trying this month. I figure we either get a BFN or we are KU and we just take our jelly bean along for the trip. I dont think you can really control such things, unless you are super fertile and get pregnant just by someone looking at you…. and if so jealous! 🙂 

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

We ttc for almost two years and during that time we travelled to disneyworld, 3 weeks in Europe, maui and New York City.  I just tended to book the time off work and had the potential itineraries semi-planned, so it was just a matter of deciding what was a decent deal a couple months out and clicking the “buy” button when the time came.  

As for the savings issue, we pretty much knew we’d “never” attempt ivf so that wasnt such a factor In planning our vacation spending. 

 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We’ve been ttc for 3 years.  The thing is that you just don’t know what will happen.  My personal belief is that you shouldn’t put off your life because of ttc or ttc because of life.  It might take you years to get pregnant.  It might only take a month, but you just don’t know.  My dh and I have been to Europe once and will be going again in a couple of weeks.  We’ve done several other trips and made some purchases we didn’t *need* to because we both agree on what only belief is.  We could have missed so much living in the past three years if we hadn’t.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Nic01:  I’ve been TTC for a longggg time and if I waited around b/c “I might be pregnant” I would have missed out on a lot of things….including travel. The hardest part (at least for me) during TTC is attempting to separate TTC from the rest of my life. But I have to keep living so to speak.

Our TTC has only started to get in the way b/c we have a trip planned next month and it falls during the time we could start our first IVF…which is going to be a month’s worth of doctor visits. Because of this, we are traveling next month and then starting IVF in May or June. 

@dodgercpkl:  ITA w/you! You never know…which makes it sooo hard. Maybe your European vacation will be successful for a BFP!!!

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