Post # 1
I know this might sound stupid to some, and i mean no offense to any women who are currently TTC and are having issues. I have watched my SIL go through it for the past 4 years (3 miscarages, and 2 babies that passed away at the 5 month mark) and its heart breaking. I am just worried that i might never be able to concieve. Its stupid i have nothing to back up my feelings, apart from a total thyroidectomy 2 years ago to help with a auto immune disease. I just feel like its something i want SO badly, to have a family of my own… that it might just not happen for me. I guess i am a bit jaded after having watched my SIL struggle i just dont want that to be me. Fiance and i agree’d that i will go off Birthcontrol after the wedding and let it get out of my system for a year before we start trying. (we want to but a house first)
Am i the only one to have these doubts? …. any advice would be appreciated.
Post # 3
I think everyone has a bit of panic about whether or not they’ll be able to conceive. And yes, its completely heartbreaking to watch those close to you go through the pain and misery of loss. I don’t know much about thyroid problems and fertility, but if you don’t have any reason to suspect that it will impact you negatively, I wouldn’t worry too much. There is no real rhyme or reason to the way this whole TTC thing goes (I’m fairly healthy, and I’ve been TTC with no luck for 18 months).
Best of luck to you, and good call with letting the BC get out of your system – those things can mess a girl up.
Post # 4
Really really try not to get worked up about it before the process starts. The stress will make it harder to conceive. If I’m even the slightest stressed I miss my period. Tell yourself that you have an entire year to conceive once you start trying. A year is normal. Just relax and give yourself that year. If after that year you’re still having problems then you can go to the doctor and address problems then. Optimism is a powerful thing 🙂
I’m sort of in the same boat. I’m getting married in one week and we decided we’d wait out our first year then start trying. My sister had a hard time conceiving. After 3 1/2 years she sort of gave up, and then bam! There’s my niece!
Post # 5
I 100% understand. I am convinced I will have issues TTC. I also have nothing to back up these fears. I am getting married in about 2 months and am going off the pill right after the wedding. After I stop BC we will not be trying but we will not be preventing, after a year or so if nothing happens I plan to start charting etc. Like you I want to just get the pill out of my system. I am relatively young (27), healthy (5’2, 115 pounds, work out 4-6 days a week, eat well but still enjoy my chocolate), none of my siblings our cousins have had any issues TTC. I am a little nervous that I have been on the pill for so long (over 10 years) but my periods were normal and regular prior to the pill and have had no issues while on it. I have a pap smear every year and it has always been regular. Yet for some reason I am positive we will have issues….hopefully you and I will both be fine and are just being irrational and silly. 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 6
I know exactly what you mean! We don’t plan to TTC until sometime after our first anniversary in November, and I keep wondering the same thing- if it will happen easily or if we will struggle. My parents had trouble concieving and had actually started the adoption process just before they discovered my mom was pregnant with me. I’m 30- my mom was just shy of 34 when I was born. I’m also concerned because several years ago, I had a durmoid on one ovary that was so big, the operation to remove it involved taking out the ovary too. There is a much smaller one still on the remaining ovary that the doctor has been keeping an eye on for the last 9 years. We’re trying to hold off on an operation so we don’t risk the remaining ovary until after I’ve had kids, even though there’s a good chance it would be fine because the durmoid is small. However, my OBY has told me that as long as my periods are normal that I shouldn’t have any problems.
Post # 7
I keep putting off having a baby because I don’t feel 100% ready yet and I sometimes worry that I won’t be able to conceive when I am ready (I’m 29). I have nothing to back up this fear, I just figure it would be just my luck.
Post # 8
I think most women have this fear and it’s perfectly normal. I had these doubts personally and still kind of do, though we got pregnant first cycle trying (which sadly ended in early miscarriage). About a year before we were TTC, I had an epiphany. I really came to terms with everything and decided to start not thinking about possible infertility, because while it’s possible and I’d be devastated, I still have my mom for support, and my husband and my dogs to love on. Thinking about it and giving it mental real estate doesn’t make it more or less likely to happen, so I just stopped thinking about possible conceiving issues. I dunno, my dogs have given me a lot of support in this whole TTC journey. They are my babies while I’m waiting fot baby #1 to grow…
Post # 9
That’s the thing with TTC, unless you have some prior medical history you just don’t know how you’ll go until you start trying.
And at the end of the day, you can do everything you possibly can (from taking vitamins to undergoing IVF) but there’s just no guarantee that any of us will be able to get pregnant.
Having said that, I say don’t worry about until you need to! Darling Husband and I tried for twelve months before getting our BFP (two months NTNT, ten months active TTC) and I’ll be honest, I was starting to get worried! But you know what? worrying wasn’t going to help us get pregnant and whilst nobody likes to be told to relax, we do know that stress can hinder the TTC process.
I say enjoy the process and the having of lots of sex 🙂
Post # 10
i could have written this post myself! i worry indeed. i’m 34. I’ve been off the pill for almost 2 years and while we haven’t been trying, we haven’t been preventing either. we plan to start trying in january just a few months shy of my 35th birthday and i worry a lot that we’ll have issues because of my age.