Post # 1
I am kinda sad but at the same time I am happy with my decision to hold off on TTC.
At first we decided qe would start trying in Oct. Then moved it to January. Now its on hold until I feel comfortable physically.
Recently I have become very active in the gym, I have lost some weight and now I want to lose even more weight and be fit, toned. I don’t want to be just slim, I want to have nice arms and a nice stomach for once in my life.
I have posted before and mentioned how a friend of mine had a baby and it scared me how muh weight she gained. Granted she wasn’t eating healthy but still. Even when you are skinny, there is always some weight gain. I just want to make it easier for myself to lose weight and get back into shape post baby.
Is this crazy? I have a goal of March to be at my goal weight and hopefully I will have some muscle definition by then. And maybe we can start TTC then. But for right now, its definitely not happening this year or in Jan.
Post # 2
I think if getting into better shape is more important to you right now than getting pregnant, then that’s your answer – that’s what you should be doing, and you should wait to TTC until you’re really ready. There’s nothing wrong with that! I had similar intentions (of getting into awesome shape before TTC), but had a hard time with weight gain after I came off the pill. In the end, I was in the habit of exercising regularly, I was eating healthy, and I felt good – and I didn’t want to put off TTC at all. If you’re in a place where you don’t have a problem with putting it off, then I think there’s no rush. You should be 100% ready to go once you decide to TTC.
I will mention, though, that you shouldn’t be too worried about weight gain in pregnancy – you do have some control over how much you gain. You will (and need to!) gain weight during pregnancy, but eating healthy and continuing to exercise will definitely moderate it, so I wouldn’t be freaked out that you’re going to just balloon up as soon as you get pregnant.
Post # 3
No it’s not crazy to want to get in shape and be toned. You know, I was in the best shape of my life in February 2013, I was toned, fit, and basically just all around healthy. Well I met my husband that month and two months later we conceived (on accident) and all of my hard work went out the window. I didn’t gain much weight, but it’s still obvious I carried a baby, I’m softer than I was, meaning I have curves now that I didn’t, and despite being lower than my pre-pregnancy weight, I still don’t fit into jeans that I wore before I got pregnant. I think if you want to wait, you shouldn’t feel guilty.
Post # 4
SadieBee: I think you made excellent points and I agree with what you’ve said.<br /><br />You can certainly continue to work out while pregnant and eat healthy. Your body may pack on more pounds than you’d like but you can always lose it afterwards. You could have complications and end up on bed rest and go completely soft. It’s one of those things that you can’t control while pregnant. You have to let go of control of a lot of things/ideas when you decide you are ready to TCC and become a parent. It sounds like you are not there yet, so it makes sense to wait.
Post # 5
SadieBee: thats what i am afraid of. I am so terrified of gaining weight. and I know i will need to in order to make sure the baby is getting their nutrients.
peanuthead: mrs.joiner: i don’t think i am ready physically. i have back problems, and i want to strenghthen my back (i have been talking with my chiropractor and she agrees this is a good idea since a pregnancy will definitely cause my back pain – i have a mild case spina bifida). Mentally, financially, I am ready. Every time I hear someone is pregnant, my heart breaks a little bc I want it so bad, but I am not ready. I need to get into shape, for myself. Its a really crapy feeling looking in the mirror every morning with nothing but self-loathing
Post # 6
Daizy914: If you aren’t ready, you aren’t ready. It doesn’t matter what your reasons are.
I personally wanted to get in better shape also. And every month we were unsuccessful was another month to get in better shape. Yes, I have abs, not crazy defined, but strong. I know that will go away now that I’m pregnant, but I’m ok with that. It’s part of the process. Having a strong core will make it easier on pregnancy and birth. I intend on working out as long as I can during pregnancy.
Your fears of gaining weight are perfectly normal, but know that there are plenty of women who bounce right back! You can do it. 🙂
Post # 7
Daizy914: I think to some extent fear of gaining weight in pregnancy is normal (I’m very conscious, for example, of what the recommended range is, and really want to avoid gaining more than that). However, I think there can be a level of fear of it that needs to be addressed. You may just be speaking a bit hyperbolically, but to say you’re terrified of gaining weight in pregnancy to me says this may be an issue you need to address before considering pregnancy. Only you know where you really are mentally with this issue, but if you really are terrified of gaining weight, you may want to talk through that fear with someone (a counselor, psychiatrist, etc.).
Post # 8
Me, too. I’ve gained 25lbs since meeting my DH. Instead of adding another 25-35lbs on top of it with pregnancy, I am losing the 25lbs I gained so that when I do get prego, I won’t be following in my mom’s footsteps of adding weight with each baby and never losing it. Do what you gotta do!
Post # 9
SadieBee: i have some really serious body issues. its to the point where i have become so stressed about my weight that i am tossing and turning at night. the added stress i am creating for myself is not helping my weightloss. i have read that stress can cause weightgain ( i haven’t gained but i haven’t lost either)
howtobeawife: thats me too. if i could get down to the weight i was when i met DH, i would be a happy camper. At the moment I am only 24lbs away. not that much but i feel like its so far away.
the other thing i keep thinking about is my age. I will be 30 in January, and i know plenty of women on the board who have gotten pregnant over the age of 30, so i really shouldn’t be worrying about this – but i am – i am not gonna lie – i am a worry wart
Post # 10
Daizy914: If you’re up all night because of body image issues, then I strongly encourage some professional counseling. This is more than just wanting to lose weight.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2011 - Laurel Rock Farms, PA
My husband and I conceived our son 1.5 months after we got married in 2011. My son is now 2 and this past winter I went on a crazy exercise program. I felt great but when it was all said and done my cycle was in shock and did not get my period for 2 months… of course I thought I was pregnant until the 3 tests were all negative. Needless to say when I got pregnant I weighed 147 I gained 22 pounds with my son however he was 5.5 weeks early. Within 3 weeks I weighed 145 but things were def. different. The good old “muffin top” that I never had was there. Loose skin on my belly was awful but I did get several stretch marks just in a circle on my belly.
Still to this day I hate my stomach a bikini will never be worn in public again but I love my son and he def. more important then my silly stretch marks.
Until you have gone through pregnancy you have a different outlook on your body image. We are thinking about having another child in the next yr and Im not sure if Im ready to go through that process again myself, just yet! Our family moto is everything happens for a reason, sometimes you can control it and understand it and sometimes you just can’t. I wish the best of luck to you and remember being a mommy is a fulltime job and even if your jeans are little snug that baby loves you for you!
Post # 12
I gained 50 lbs with my last pregnancy, I had my daughter in January. By May I had lost all the weight and by July I was 10 lbs less than my PP weight, and I have a skinny build to begin with. I think people worry about baby weight way more than they should. I kow many people mentioned my weight gain to me during and after my pregnancy and I basically told them I just didb’t care! If you want to get toned etc do it for yourself 100% and don’t worry too much about the weight you’ll gain during pregnancy. I myself wouldn’t delay TTC if I was already healthy but what works for one doesn’t work for all!