TTC questions and worries

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
2056 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Can you ask your gyno for input on the age thing?  I am 31 and not planning to try until I’m 32, and my gyno does not seem concerned in the least.  Like you, I have had friends take over a year, but I’ve also had friends who are my age get pregnant on the first month trying.  You just don’t know.


If you are feeling like you don’t want to wait, could you start trying 9 mos before you graduate, so that if you got pregnant right away, you could have the baby, take a few months off, and then start a new job?  I know you said that it makes you nervous to add a baby to your financial picture, but maybe that could be a compromise?

Post # 5
3009 posts
Sugar bee

@notbridey:  I was on bc for most of 16 years. I got pregnant at 34 the first time we had completely unprotected sex during my fertile week. Other women’a experiences are not a predictor of what yours will be. Maybe look at familial fertility, but even that is only slightly related. It is unfortunately one of those things you just can’t know. 

Post # 6
1817 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I was on BC for 11-12 years and I got pregnant one my second cycle. And from what I have read BC doesn’t have any effect on your fertility once you stop it. It will take your body a cycle or two to get used to not being on it though.

If you plan on using FMLA when you give birth I would go with your original plan and work at your new job for a solid year (a requirement I believe in order to qualify).

I can understand your fears though! I am 27 and was paranoid that I would have issues getting pregnant so hubby and I started a little earlier just in case. I would speak with your doctor about the age thing.

Post # 7
6667 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had my 2nd daughter at 34.  We conceived on the first try after 8 years of birth control.  I think you may be worried for nothing.

Post # 8
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

My mother didn’t start having children until 35 (me!) she finished with an accidental pregnancy (little brother) at age 40. Everyone told her she and my father wouldn’t be able to conceive at all, that they should’ve started years ago etc. She had absolutely no problem with getting pregnant or with pregnancies sticking. They got married at 29/30 and felt a lot of pressure to start trying right away, she said she’s glad she didn’t cave to that outside pressure. I realize some women do have trouble in their 30s/40s, but it’s definitely not the sharp drop off the moment you turn 30, which people seem to think. Talk to your doctor about it, look at your family history etc. 

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