Post # 1
We’re not there yet but with so many friends getting pregnant and having babies…it’s definitely on my mind. And with that the worries and the questions.
I am going back to school for a new career and hope to be finished with school in May 2016. I am giving myself about 3 months to find a job. So that’s August. We figure if I work for a year that’s safer in terms of job security…or am I wrong in this? This puts us trying in mid to late 2017, at which point I’ll be 34. One of my friends who announced her pregnancy said they tried for a year and a half and another friend commented and said it took them 2.5 years. These women are all 2-4 years younger than me. What does it say about my chances of it taking a long time? I’ve been on birth control since I was 19…is that going to make it more difficult?
Trying sooner would be great but we’re basically living on my husband’s salary. We bought a condo so that’s taken care of for a bit. Two of us on his salary is okay but adding a baby into the mix would be pretty impossible.
I’m just sort of kind of freaking out. If I’m being a complete nutter let me know!
Post # 3
Can you ask your gyno for input on the age thing? I am 31 and not planning to try until I’m 32, and my gyno does not seem concerned in the least. Like you, I have had friends take over a year, but I’ve also had friends who are my age get pregnant on the first month trying. You just don’t know.
If you are feeling like you don’t want to wait, could you start trying 9 mos before you graduate, so that if you got pregnant right away, you could have the baby, take a few months off, and then start a new job? I know you said that it makes you nervous to add a baby to your financial picture, but maybe that could be a compromise?
Post # 4
I asked my gyno and she has no problem with it and told me to take my time and she has like 8 kids!
I’m thinking that we start trying soon after I land the job in case it takes a while and I feel like that’s a decent enough compromise.
Post # 5
@notbridey: I was on bc for most of 16 years. I got pregnant at 34 the first time we had completely unprotected sex during my fertile week. Other women’a experiences are not a predictor of what yours will be. Maybe look at familial fertility, but even that is only slightly related. It is unfortunately one of those things you just can’t know.
Post # 6
I was on BC for 11-12 years and I got pregnant one my second cycle. And from what I have read BC doesn’t have any effect on your fertility once you stop it. It will take your body a cycle or two to get used to not being on it though.
If you plan on using FMLA when you give birth I would go with your original plan and work at your new job for a solid year (a requirement I believe in order to qualify).
I can understand your fears though! I am 27 and was paranoid that I would have issues getting pregnant so hubby and I started a little earlier just in case. I would speak with your doctor about the age thing.
Post # 7
I had my 2nd daughter at 34. We conceived on the first try after 8 years of birth control. I think you may be worried for nothing.
Post # 8
My mother didn’t start having children until 35 (me!) she finished with an accidental pregnancy (little brother) at age 40. Everyone told her she and my father wouldn’t be able to conceive at all, that they should’ve started years ago etc. She had absolutely no problem with getting pregnant or with pregnancies sticking. They got married at 29/30 and felt a lot of pressure to start trying right away, she said she’s glad she didn’t cave to that outside pressure. I realize some women do have trouble in their 30s/40s, but it’s definitely not the sharp drop off the moment you turn 30, which people seem to think. Talk to your doctor about it, look at your family history etc.