Post # 1
So, I’ve been married 9 months and have babies on the brain. We are going to discuss a timeline for TTC somewhere around our first anniversary in November. It won’t be immediately after because the lease on our rental house is up in January and we are hoping to buy a house to move into at that time. However, it will likely be some time next year- I’ll be 31 in October, and DH understands that sooner rather than later might be a good idea. (I like how a friend put it- sooner rather than later but not tomorrow.) I love children and can’t stop daydreaming about motherhood.
A sort of silly thing I’ve been thinking about in relation to this…I’m active in community theater. I’m new to the area and just did a local production of The Wizard of Oz. Next spring, this same theater is putting on an old favorite- Fiddler on the Roof- and I think I have a very good shot at being cast as one of Tevye’s daughters. Unfortunately, if we start TTC right after the new year, I could potentially be pregnant during the time frame of the show’s run which wouldn’t bode well for being cast. (It might, however, be doable if I’m still not too far along.) My mom thinks I’m being foolish to put off TTC just to do another show since we don’t know if I’ll have issues or not, and I’m not getting any younger. So…do I push to start TTC early next year and if it means I don’t do the show, oh well, there will be other shows….or do I push for putting it on hold till next summer just in case I’m able to snag a dream role?
Post # 3
Take it from someone who is the same age as you – things don’t always work out as planned. I thought that as soon as I finish whataver I had on my plate then…. I’ll get pregnant right away … well its been almost 5 months and after a few failed attempts and a m/c still nothing… Not saying that it won’t happen right away for you, but if you value your theater more than motherhood that go ahead and postpone. just don’t assume things will happen right away. I kinda agree with your mom. After this production there will be another one and another one…
Post # 4
Yes, I definitely get what you are saying. DH has often told me that I can’t plan my whole life around the posibilty of getting cast in shows. There have been times when I decided not to do something because it would conflict with a show I want to do and then I end up not getting cast. And you’re right too…there could very easily be another show I love being put on that fall. And part of me aches over the idea of putting off TTC.
Post # 5
As a fellow theatre person, I don’t think I would ever postpone a major life decision (marriage, baby, career, etc.) for community theatre. If it was my profession that would bring another set of considerations into the mix, but as much as i would like them to, my hobbies don’t get top billing in my list of priorities.
And there are no guarantees with either choice! You can’t know for sure if you will get pregnant right away, or if you will for sure get the part you want. Go for both! You might get the part and get pregnant late enough that you can do it all.