Post # 1
I miscarried my first pregnancy at 6 weeks in late June. I’ve now been bleeding for over a week and my HCG has dropped from 81 last Monday to 29 this past Monday. I go back in a week to test again, and I’m hoping my HCG will be back down to normal, between 0 & 5.
My question: If you’ve had an early miscarriage and are TTC, did you try again once your bleeding stopped if you ovulated right away or wait at least one cycle or more to try again? I know this is a question for my Dr. and I’ll ask her too, but I’ve read many different answers online and would like to hear from some bee’s who, unfortunately, have experience with this?
Post # 2
MrsFairyBee: I’m sorry for your loss.
My doctor said to wait “a couple” cycles; haven’t clarified that with her yet, but I’m hoping she lowers that down to one, since for me everything returned to normal very fast. I was only about 4.5 weeks, though; if I hadn’t been charting and been told to call the doc as soon as I got a BFP, I probably wouldn’t have known it even happened. My HCG was gone before my bleeding even stopped.
I asked my dad the same question, for a second opinion (he’s a family practice doc that’s done OB since forever), and he said he also recommends waiting at least one cycle after even an early MC because the uterine lining needs the time to return to normal.
So up to now, we’ve waited at least one cycle. I’ll know later on whether or not we need to wait longer. It’s awfully frustrating to want to try so badly but not be able to!
Post # 3
MrsFairyBee: First MC was early at 5.5 weeks, MC naturally so didn’t wait. BFN first cycle, BFP second cycle. That cycle turned out to be a twin pregnancy and I had a MMC at 9 weeks. Because I had a D&C I waited until after my first period post D&C before trying again… Often you’ll hear wait 1 cycle or 3 cycles. My opinion was after the natural one, just to go for it, but because there is more risk for infection post D&C and your body needs time to heal to wait at least one cycle. But really it’s down to when you’re ready again, what your doctor thinks and your gut feeling. Good Luck!
Post # 4
MrsFairyBee: So sorry to hear about your loss. I hope your numbers are where they need to be next week.
My DH and I have had 4 early losses since last year and my OB told us there was no reason we couldn’t try right away even though some other doctors suggest waiting a cycle or 2. More recently, after more losses, my OB has explained in more detail since we’re on medicated cycles now that the 1st day of bleeding with a MC you can’t consider CD1 and assume you’ll ovulate that cycle, even though there is the chance you might. My OB suggests we wait for the next AF after MC to consider a new cycle. I was so disappointed to hear that after our last loss in early May we had to wait an additional month before starting a new cycle, but in retrospect the time off TTC was refreshing.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2011 - Baby boy 12/2015
MrsFairyBee: I have no experience of my own, but a friend mc very early on around the 6 week mark and went on to try the following cycle. I am pretty sure that’s the cycle she conceived. She is now 26 weeks pregnant. I think waiting a cycle sounds fairly reasonable, but I am not a doctor.
Post # 6
MrsFairyBee: My coworker had an 11 week loss. She was told to take a few cycles off trying, but it never dawned on them to prevent either (4 years of TTC, so birth control wasn’t part of their life). About 6 weeks after the MC she finds herself pregnant. Her baby is now 2 and surprise number 2 is 20 weeks.
They weren’t emotionally ready to try after their loss and I think it is often good to take some mental health time, but I wouldn’t go on the pill or anything. If it happens when you weren’t avoiding, it happens
Post # 7
I MC at 8w and a couple days. My doc told me to wait 3 whole cycles to start again…. Well we waited 1 cycle, and finally got preggo again 4 cycles later.
Post # 8
I can’t seem to edit on my phone, but I was going to update to say that my doctor recommended waiting three full periods (including the MC bleed) because there was a higher risk of another MC or hormone Problems. She said it can take a little while for the hormones to reregulate after pregnancy. Anyways, since I just talked to her I figured I’d update.
Post # 9
Thanks all. It’s good to hear from others’ experiences. As much as I want to jump right on it, we’ll probably wait at least 1 cycle to recover physically and emotionally.
Post # 10
MrsFairyBee: we tried right away. I had read a lot of fairy tales (true ones, but still fairly tales to me) about people getting preg right away after a CP. I fully convinced myself that even though I felt a lot different from when I was preg, that I was preg again. Symptom spotting went beyond. Didn’t get preg, and ended up having a pretty hard time coping. I think a month off probably would have been beneficial to my mental health, but I’m impatient and the loss made me even more determined to make this happen. Too bad I can’t MAKE it happen. I hope you are doing well and please lean on us whenever needed!