TTC vs New Job. What would you do?

posted 3 years ago in TTC
  • poll: What would you do in this situation?
    Get a new job before TTC, wait to TTC for at least 1 year : (13 votes)
    57 %
    TTC now and look for a new job after mat leave is up : (5 votes)
    22 %
    TTC now while continuing to look for a new job. Pregnant women have been hired before! : (3 votes)
    13 %
    You don't sound ready to TTC ( explain ) : (2 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    649 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I was in a similar situation. I have a good job I enjoy with good benefits, and it would be a really compatible position with TTC and babyhood.

    However, I found out I was pregnant and was offered my dream job the same week. I’ll already be 10 weeks when I start. I won’t qualify for FMLA (so I’ll only get 6 weeks off, plus whatever sick/vacation time I take), but maternity leave is short-term and my career is long-term. It will be longer hours, and a much farther commute, but my husband supports the decision and will compensate. (It also helps that grandparents live nearby.)

    Every day I get nervous that I’m not making the right choice, but it comes down to this for me: I don’t even have the baby yet, and I am already considering holding myself back from the career I want. Imagine how tough it’ll be to take risks when little one is actually here.

    So, I’m going to make it it work.

    I hope you make a decision you and your husband can feel good about for both you and future babies! Remember that you can always interview and turn down a position that isn’t the perfect fit for you and your family.


    Post # 4
    1343 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    The reason that I say TTC and then find a new job after maternity leave is up…. is because, you know you will have your benefits, you won’t have to “explain” to anyone about being pregnant, and loving your job (even if you are getting bored of it) will be a lot easier on the pregnant you, than a new job with new people, new rules, etc. 

    That’s just me though! I’d want to be non-stressed while I’m cooking future baby! 🙂 

    Post # 5
    1421 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    It seems pretty straightforward to me.  You have four good reasons to wait. 

    1.)  You aren’t totally gung-ho on having a child just yet. 

    2.)  You are still young and have lot of quality baby-making time left. 

    3.)  You want a new job and to get settled in it. 

    4.)  An additional year or two of waiting is not all that long. 

    Job searches can be discouraging.  If you aren’t having much luck revamp your resume, network like crazy, and follow-up when you don’t hear back (unless it is one of those fields where following up is silly because you don’t expect to hear back — like academics). 

    Post # 6
    1048 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I disagree with @jackieee: 

    Yes, maternity leave is temporary.  But the baby is not!  Choosing a job that has a farther commute, longer work hours, etc…doesn’t seem to me like a great plan with a baby coming.  BUT everyone is different and you’ll get lots of varying opinions about this.

    I did the exact opposite.  I left a job that had better advancement potential, higher pay, but much longer hours and worse commute in order to be closer to and spend more time with my first born.   Was it a sacrifice?  Of course!  But that’s sometimes is what being a parent is about.  It’s like marriage.  Whenever you factor in other people, sometimes the choices are all in tune with each other, sometimes they aren’t.  And when they aren’t, you gotta make the choice that is better in the long run.

    I vote for TTC now and get a new job later.

    Post # 7
    649 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @Bazingau:  Good points also! I certainly went back and forth between this viewpoint. Definitely things the OP needs to consider.


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