Post # 1
I have a unique stuation in that I will not be attending university full time, but only 1/2time& 3/4time from sept 2014-june2016. This is due to scheduling issues with the capstone classes I need for my Psychology degree being offered only in winter and spring terms. I was attending a regular campus and was set to graduate this coming spring, but decided to follow my heart and change degrees, and attend online-only. I am very exicted to be getting a psych degree, and I was hopng some of you have some insight on this.
Did any of you have a baby or TTC while still in school? (our current plan will mean both would happen)
I like the fact that I will have maximum flexibility while in classes, and my aid also pitches in some money for living expenses. it seems that having a baby while in school provides a bit of security in knowing I can be home with baby and have some extra income from school. (DH has a very steady job, and we are surviving on just his income currently, without any supplemental income from my end.) I am currently looking at getting a PT job to supplement our income and sock money into savings, and I would quit this job once baby is born and live off of savings while finishing my degree. I’m just worried that for some reason this is unrealistic? Please share your experiences, good or bad!
Post # 2
I got pregnant when I was finishing up college. Personally I wouldn’t recommend getting pregnant while still in school. Babies are a lot of work and are expensive. We didn’t plan on getting pregnant, and we’re very lucky that I was only about 5 weeks pregnant when I graduated from college. I know I could have never handled raising a child and being pregnant. If you’re able to do it, while in college ,more power to you, but I think it’s best to wait when you’re not focusing on school.
Post # 3
mrscorgi: I am currently finishing up my teaching certification while TTC. I know it’s not the most ideal situation, but I figure that I finish my student teaching in February, and probably wouldn’t find a teaching job until Fall anyways. I am in my early thirties, and if I was younger I would definately wait. If it works, I can have a few months at home with baby before beginning a teaching job.
However, I don’t think I would have done this if I was still attending school. Some women can handle a newborn and college courses just fine, but it is going to be really hard. Reading psychology books and trying to write papers on a few hours of sleep does not sound like a good deal to me. But if you really feel that you can handle a newborn’s needs and keeping up with courses, then go ahead!
Post # 4
I wouldnt be attending classes full time. only 1 or 2 classes per term, and all online. I am also a PCOS bee and my mother battled infertility troubles when she was my age. So I feel like waiting may end up costing us money and stress if we have to face infertility issues. my last ultrasound shows plentiful cysts on both ovaries 🙁
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
It’s not the path that DH and I have taken, but I did have a few friends that purposfully and by “surprise” ended up going that route and it was definitely a difficult transition for most. I’ve known multiple people that getting pregnant actually delayed their graduation dates because of complications and one even had her baby a week before finals and didn’t have any time or energy to study, so she ended up doing poorly in all of her classes right at the end.
I don’t think it’s unrealistic persay, it’s doable, but I don’t think it would be my first choice.
Post # 6
mrscorgi: I’m currently TTC and I work full time as an engineer and go to school part time to finish my MBA, I take 2 evening classes, my commute is almost 1 hour each way to attend 4 hour classes twice a week and I meet with my group for projects and assignments during the weekends. DH has been great to help out with chores around the house, he makes me lunch to take to work (well he has done that even before I started school, he likes to cook) and we hire someone to clean our house once a month (deep cleaning) So we have managed well so far. Our original plan was to wait to TTC until I was almost done with my degree, but we changed our plans and decided I wasn’t getting any younger and it was better to start TTC and if pregnant I would just take longer to graduate. This was the best decision ever! I’m 31 and I’ve had 4 chemical pregnancies in 1 year and recently diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve, so our path to parenthood will be long and difficult and I’m glad we decided to start TTC earlier than planned.
Post # 7
I’m finishing up my PhD and have been TTC for 8 cycles now. I don’t think there’s ever a right time. You don’t know how long it will even take…
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2013 - Backyard
I got pregnant this past march while I was finishing getting my Bachelor of Science degree in BioChemistry. I do not think there is a right time for anyone to get pregnant and it happens when it happens. I am 22 years old and have been with my husband going on 9 years..married for a little over 1 year. He was working while I was finishing my degree and we got pregnant finally. The only downside was morning sickness and being newly pregnant during ‘finals.’ Luckily, I set myself up to do well in the beginning of the semester so any final exams wouldn’t damage my grades. I was 10 weeks pregnant when I graduated and we told our friends around 7 weeks…so it was a giant celebration and we are happy we got pregnant when we did. However, I do not have to go back to school while raising a child so I can imagine someone else might have a different experience. All I know is that you are EXHAUSTED during the first trimester and I mean….physically cannot do anything (at least I was) so I would keep that in mind if you have plans to study late at night, because it will not happen! I do wish you luck and hope you find a solution that works for you! No decision is unrealistic, it will just take some serious adapting!
Post # 9
I currently work full-time and am in grad school part-time and am planning to start TTC midway through this semester. I’m planning to time it so that I’ll be done with school before giving birth, but I would (hopefully) be pregnant during school. I will be 36 next month, so I don’t feel like we have time to wait until I’m completely done with school to TTC. However, I can already tell that I wouldn’t want to try raising a child, working, and going to school all at the same time, so after we have kids, no more school for me.
Post # 10
I think as long as you can live on one salary there probably won’t be a problem. If they are online classes and only one or two, I don’t think it will be too difficult to have a baby and do that. If you do get pregnant and give birth while you’re in school you will probably want stay-at home help (like from your mother) those early weeks if you’re needing to do classwork.
I was working full time, but I think I could have easily done the baby thing along with 1 or 2 online classes and no other work.
Post # 11
kes18: I am very fortunate to have a retired mother and retired MIL that would be more than happy to help with a newborn, so much so that I’m afraid I’ll have to be mean and shoo them away when ive had too much of them!
Post # 12
The people I know who have had a baby while in college really had a hard time balancing everything, and in every case except one delayed their graduation by a year or more.
That said, this was a more traditional brick and mortar institution. As long as you build in time for your online class and are financially secure, you should be OK.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2011 - Baby boy 12/2015
mrscorgi: I am in a similar situation in that we started to TTC while in my doctorate program. We didn’t get pregnant for the 7 months we tried, and are now waiting for DH to get into a better job, so we paused the baby making. I am all done with courses, and about to start writing my dissertation, so FX if DH gets into a better job, we can resume TTC even if I am still not all done. At least, I would be close to graduating when we resume TTC. I say, if you guys are financially stable, and you’re comfortable taking your courses online and doing what you need to do to finish school while pregnant, go for it. You don’t know how long it may take you and what sorts of fertility issues you may face. Best of luck!
Post # 14
Ultimately, I think what it comes down to is that there is no perfect time. If you are your husband are both emotionally ready for ttc, pregnancy and baby, and financially secure enough that it won’t have a huge impact on your quality of life, I say go for it.
I started TTC 7 months before graduating from nursing school, hoping to get pregnant right away, have the baby a couple months after graduation, and then get into the workforce a couple months after that. Well, you know what they say about making plans…..I ended up not getting pregnant until our 8th cycle, which means now I’m in the position of either seeking a new job while pregnant (don’t recommend it if at all possible to avoid) or delaying starting my career until next summer. This is something you might need to consider as well.
Just from what you’ve described about your and your husband’s financial and work/school situation, I’d say go for it. I think it is definitely possible to do part-time online courses and be pregnant, even to do those kinds of courses and care for a baby.
Post # 15
idk why anyone would TTC when they have finals, exams, etc. you should finish your degree and not get distracted by this. however, you did say it’s online so i think in this case it would be alright. but you might have a hard time balancing your life. online classes aren’t any easier.