Post # 1
Okay, I don’t get it. Why do people seem so obsessed over charting etc. I understand that some people it doesn’t come easy and they have to plan to get pregnant etc but whatever happened to just not not trying (or pulling the goalie as we call it in my house)?
Why do people put so much pressure on planning and organizing and timing getting pregnant? I really don’t get it. FH and I are planning to pull the goalie after the wedding and see what happens – I am fully aware that you have certain days that you are ‘most fertile’ etc . but I can also find you dozens of people who got pregnant when they supposedly we outside the fertile window.
EDIT – to be clear, I’m more wondering about people who start with all the charting etc right away. I completely understand that some people have difficulty and that it’s harder for them. Some people just seem to put a lot of pressure on themselves to make this happen.
Post # 3
Because the people who get pregnant that way don’t need to be on the TTC boards 🙂
By being on these boards, you are seeing a skewed version – a vast majority of the posters have some kind of issue (known or unknown). Those who have no trouble getting pregnant don’t need support/advice on how to go about it
Post # 4
@MsGinkgo: Unlike the movies where once is often enough healthy couples only have a 15% chance of concieving each month. I don’t particularly care for those odds and at 30 years old I don’t want to wait forever if I can take action and increase my success rate.
Considering charting, OPK’s, monitoring CM just various ways to improve your odds on a really big bet. If it doesn’t matter to you how long it takes to concieve then plug away at the “try it and see what happens method.” For some of us waiting and seeing isn’t enough.
Post # 5
I have no issue getting preggo..I was pregnant at 21 after 2 months of knowing my now DH…unfortunately I chose to take care of it.
I am more set on “obsessing” over TTC , though not to the point that I feel the need to chart (other people have reason for needing to do so) because I’d like to actually have it happen this month, and if not then we’re waiting until 2014 for multiple reasons.
Also, I was like you first and said whatever happens happens, and not to make a big deal..but when the time came to actually do it, it became more real and the way I acted upon my excitement was different.
Post # 6
@Glasgowbound: Because the people who get pregnant that way don’t need to be on the TTC boards 🙂
Exactly. People that do just stop and have fun arent here talking about it, cuae that would be TTC brain.
@MsGinkgo: How old are you? Do you think something is probably a bit more presured if they were say closer to 40 than to 25?
Post # 7
@Treejewel19: I guess I know a lot of lucky people….6 close friends/family members, once was enough, and they’re all over 27…
I understand the not wanting to wait, I’m 30 myself, but so many people (here and elsewhere) seem to get so worked up over the whole thing that I’m sure it’s not helping anything
Post # 8
Because we wanted to get pregnant before my husband was deployed again…when you are working with a limited time frame, and you are already in your 30’s, sometimes the “wait and see/just pull the goalie” approach really isn’t your best option.
Post # 9
@pinkshoes: I’m 30, and believe me, I’m fully aware of what that means for the odds of getting pregnant, my mother reminds me daily.
Post # 10
I didn’t have to chart, I was extremely fortunate. But I find it a little insensitive to post this and come across like it doesn’t “make sense” when you’ve never been in the shoes of people who month after month get a BFN. It just would be worth being a little more sensitive to that. You also never know what goes on behind closed doors. All these people you think had it so easy, could have been trying for months and you’d never know.
Post # 11
@MsGinkgo: I could understand following that for a few months (it’s what I was gonna do) but after a little while I’d start trying just a little harder. That would involve the charting or OPKs. I just couldn’t imagine not worrying about it if you’ve been having unprotected sex for over 6 months and nothing.
Post # 12
I wonder that too… I mean I get it when the person has tried for like a year with no results, but I wonder why some people start with the charting, OPKs, etc. right off the bat. It seems a bit much to me, but to each their own I guess.
Post # 13
@MsGinkgo: I think you are assuming that taking action with tests and figures is “getting worked up.” That is like saying a woman who looks through bridal magazines and clips photos is also getting worked up over the dress.
Doing your research and taking extra precautions is not IMHO getting worked up.
Also, to take that one step further I think you are confusing getting worked up (negative) for excitement (positive). I am extremely EXCITED and cannot stop thinking and talking about the possiblity of getting pregnant. That only feeds my fire to continue to TTC. I don’t feel pressured I feel beyond excited and anxious.
Post # 14
These threads pop up on the TTC board every once ina while…. while I myself don’t get the charting just to “get to know my body” thing. I do understand and respect that everyone has their own reason.
I think if it took me 6+ months I would start OPKs…but I don’t think the constant temping is for me, because like POAS, it can become addictive (for someone like me).
Post # 15
@MsGinkgo: haha, parents. Well if you are relaxed enought to just see what happens and not really chart or look for fertile signs, more power to you. Personally with a few 90 day cycles and avg of cycle 42-45 days, I’ve only had 7 cycles in the last 13 months. I dont exactly feel like i have the luxury of just see when every cycle is such a long wait.
Post # 16
I don’t see this thread ending well