Post # 1
Good afternoon Bees!
I’ve posted a few times that I’m an older bride engaged to a much younger man. I turned 43 last month and he turned 30 in February.
A little over 14 years ago, I had my tubes tied after I had my last child and was in a very bad marriage. I thought I was stuck and couldn’t stand the idea of having another genetic tie to the ex. I immediately regretted the tubal and cried for months.
Fast forward a lot of years and I met my fiance. This will be his first marriage and he has no children. He is great with mine and has been ever since he met them five years ago.
I’ve been thinking that I’d like to have a child with him. We’ve discussed it and know that time is of the essence. I’m pretty healthy and excercise regulary. Other than horrible morning sickness, I had and delivered three very healthy children with no problems.
I’ve been researching Tubal Ligation Reversal for a couple of years now. It will cost me around $7000 and insurance does not pay. I’m virtually debt free at this point, so I’m not concerned about the money.
I’m wondering if there are any other Bees that have done this or are contemplating doing this? I’d like to hear about your experiences.
I’m also curious to hear from other women that have conceived while in their 40’s. I know there is a greater chance for things to go wrong, but I have positive hopes because one of my grandmother’s gave birth to my uncle when she was 44 and both were healthy throughtout the pregnancy and after.
Post # 3
I have not gone through this but im going to bump this for the after work bees who might be able to comment
sorry but i hope everything works out!
Post # 4
I guess it depends how your procedure was done. Mine were cut and cauterized, they tied the ends after cutting and seal them, no chance of reversal, none. I know sometimes they are clamped and that may be removed, if there is no scar tissue. I know its harder to get pregnant in your 40’s so I’d guess the chances are minimal. You couldnt pay me to have kids in my 40s after watching my friends go through it in their late 30’s and early 40’s, no way, no how, no thanks…lol Your best bet is to speak to a professinal about success rates but I cant imagine it would be worth the money. Perhaps easier to put it towards IVF?
Post # 5
Much of what I’ve read lately recommends IVF as having higher success rates than traditional tubal reversal. And check to see if you have any infertility coverage – if you do, it might make the IVF cost way more reasonable. I agree with PP that talking to a doctor – specifically a Reproductive Endocrinologist – will give you a better idea of the best options and costs for your situation. Best of luck however you proceed!
Post # 6
Thank you all for your comments!
I’ve been to my ob/gyn to get everything checked out to make sure I’m still physically able to give birth. He seemed very positive, but also pushed for in vitro.
My negative feelings towards in vitro stems from knowing several couples that spent close to $20,000 each on a one shot deal and walked away with no pregnancy. With the tubal reversal, I can try repeatedly instead of going in for the one time to have in vitro. Either way, it’s a crap shoot.
I’ve done a lot of research and while this place is one of the more expensive, they seem to have a higher success rate:
Really, I’d be just as content to adopt, but I’d like to at least attempt to have a child with my FI before I go down that road.
Post # 7
Bumping in case any bees missed this and could offer an opinion.
Post # 8
I’m 42 and we’ll be trying for our first this summer. Luckily I have good genetics and my fertility age isn’t as old as I feel:) To be honest, I would discuss w/ a RE before you go through the process. Get all the testing to see if your hormones are in normal range because if you suffer from low ovarian reserves, IVF using a DE may be your only option. DH and I are hoping we will be able to use OE but DE may be my option as well.
Also check out the boards on resolve.org. There’s a ton of info on those boards and also discussion threads relating to using DE eggs.