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I'm going to be very honest. I would absolutely GO to a Tuesday wedding (if it were local), but I wouldn't stay late either. I'd have to work the next day! I understand your need to save money, but you really should come to terms with the idea that not a LOT of people are going to be celebrating the night away with you.
I'm sorry, I know it's not what you wanted to hear.
couple of thoughts:
1) the fewer the number of people you invite, the better the chances that more of them will come, as they are generally closer to you, so you've got that going for you
2) if i weren't local, however, i probably wouldn't go to a tuesday wedding. in my opinion, even monday would be better because at least if i were traveling i'd also get the weekend there
I definitely do not need people to party the night away. I was planning on doing our exit at 10pm. I planned on that because I work a m-f, 8-5 job and 10pm is when I would probably leave if it was someone else's wedding. Is 10pm too late to expect though? It is local -all OOT guests are close family and will come no matter what day of the week it is and the rest have no more than 30 min to travel.
I have two thoughts
1. 4:30 is very early for a weekday ceremony, you may have some guests that make it for the reception only
2. I'd probably stay until 10 BUT I also probably wouldn't be in the greatest partying mood. Its just hard to relax and enjoy yourself when you have work the next day
tuesday is a hard day to come to a wedding.. cant you find a cheaper venue? a friend of mine got married on a tuesday and very few people showed up, most came late after they finished work and left early. so i dont kno if its worth it to save all money and not have alot of people there
Ignore any and all naysayers' comments because they are under the (usually incorrect) assumption that you are inviting people spur of the moment. Those who want to be there will find a way and will stay as long as possible. Since your date is over a year away, you send out save the dates 12 months in advance so that people have time to prepare (scheduling vacations, etc). Then you send out invites at the standard 6- 8 weeks before.
Folks get married midweek all the time with no issues at all. You just don't hear about it because the majority prefer the more expensive weekends and shove everything else under the carpet and don't want you to know that there are other feasible options.
There is nothing to worry about regarding your choice. The ones who complain are the ones you don't want to have in attendance.
I think that, for a lot of your guests, decisions will have to be made about exactly how much time they can spend dedicated to your wedding. For me, I would have to consider taking time off work both on the day and possibly the day after if I was going to party until ten at night. Look at your guest list and figure out realistically how many of your guests will be likely to do that. Decide whether you value the large wedding or the venue more and plan accordingly.
Provided you give plenty of notice it shouldn't be an issue for a lot of people. I would absolutely take a day off work for good friend/close family member.
My future SIL has her wedding on a Tuesday, but her reasoning was because she wanted to get married on their anniversary date. With that being said - her wedding turned out beautiful. She had quite a bit of guests show up She invited around 100 and about 60 showed. And for the most part everyone stayed. The only people that had left early were the ones that had the little kids and the elder. But I think as long as you give people enough time to request off for your wedding then it will be fine. Granted, people will lleave a little early because most work early hours the next day and if they had a bit of a travel. I'm sure everything will work out with your wedding and you will be happy :"]]
If would prefer to attend a wedding on a Monday, rather than a Tuesday, simply because I'd rather extend the weekend instead of weekend, work, day off/wedding, back to work (if that makes sense).
If Monday is not possible, I think with enough warning the people closest to you will make the proper arrangements to be there. 10pm seems like a reasonable end time.
We had our wedding on a Tuesday--at noon on a Tuesday, actually. Even though all of our invited guests were OOT, they were also only immediate family and very close friends. All of them came.
If most of your guests are in-town, that will also help. Even people who can't stay the whole time may well come for a few hours.
I would go to a Tuesday wedding in town after work (6 would be great; dinner at 7; dancing at 8) and would probably leave around 10. But most parents will have to take their kids home much earlier unless they can find a babysitter. I would go to a Tuesday wedding out of town for a close friend or family member. How about a different venue? Where in Northern CA are you? How about a park - it's usually around $50 for a park venue. Or a city-owned place if you want more privacy? There's one here we could have had on a Saturday for $300.
Anyone who is truly close to you will stay. I went to a Tuesday wedding, but it wasn't a super close friend and I left around 9. If I was closer, or family, I would have stayed longer and maybe even taken the day off the next day.
I don't think a Tuesday wedding will feel the same as a Friday or Saturday, but if it's your only option then just got for it and really prepare people ahead of time.
Are there any free venues you could find access to? Like the backyard of a family member? You still have a lot of time to be creative...
I think, with enough notice, I'd just take the time off. I'd not only go but I'd stay late. Especially it were for a family member. I'm sure most of your guests will try their hardest to attend. I think they'll also realize how expensive weddings are, who can't appreciate a desire to save money? I wouldn't fret yet! Just get the save-the-dates out early.
I would go to a Tuesday wedding if it was local or if it was someone who was close to me. However, I wouldn't stay as late as I would at a wedding that was on a Friday or Saturday. The people who are important to you will make a point to be there I'm sure so I wouldn't worry about it.
I'm sending out STD's in January - 9 months in advance.
I will be honest - I probably wouldn't be able to make it to the ceremony and if I was an OOT guest I probably would send regrets. I work and I have limited days of vacation. Even if I was able to leave work on time or early even the best I could do would be making it there by 5-5:30 but I would try to stay a bit later if possible. I mean probably around 9:30 or 10 pm is as late as I could go.
Honestly I have a Sunday evening wedding coming up and it is out of town for me and I still am having a hard time juggling how I am going to figure this out with work. This bride is also one of my very best friends.
I work based on production and not salary. If I am not working I am not getting paid and like most people I have yet to find a money tree growing in my backyard so I need to work and most weeks I work anywhere from 60-70 hours per week so if I had to travel all day Tuesday for a wedding that afternoon then possibly spend the night on Tuesday and travel back home on Wednesday I just don't know that I could handle missing two full days of work right now.
Could you find may be a nice park or even work out a smaller guest list to come up with that extra money for it to be held on a weekend?
If I cared about the person who's wedding it was (which seems that way for you because you have a small guest list) I would go and I would PARTY just like I would if it was a Saturday Wedding!
The people who love you will be there!
It's going to depend a lot on who your guests are and what their schedules are like. I'm in medical school, for example, and I definitely wouldn't be able to travel for a mid-week wedding in September. If I was local, I wouldn't be able to make it a wedding at 4:30 without somehow getting out of my obligations for the entire day. I do go out on weekdays, so that's less of an issue, but I think 4:30 is rather early.
I know saving money is a priority, but I think that there are reasonable ways to save money and others that just aren't as good of an idea. It's going to depend on your guest list, so you might start by asking people that you plan to invite whether it would be a problem for them.
I will definitely consider moving the ceremony up to 5-5:30. The sun sets at 7pm on our date in September so I can't make the ceremony too late or I won't have time for pictures. How long do pictures take?
I just got married on a Monday, and honestly...if I had it to do over again, the only weekday I would consider is a Friday. Yes, people took off Monday to be at our wedding, so they couldn't take off to actually stay and enjoy the party. Sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear, but it's one of my regrets. Hardly anyone danced, and that totally bummed me out!!
Honestly, I think 4:30 is too early to start. Most people don't get out of work until 5 and they need some time to change and get ready for the wedding. I think an weekday wedding should probably be the ceremony and dinner and that's about it because I probably wouldn't stay past 8 or maybe 9.
We took pictures for a few hours but I don't think you will have that luxury on a weekday wedding.
Do your pictures before the ceremony or at least do the majority of them. And we have allotted 2.5 hours for pictures.
at the 4:30 time frame if your ceremony only lasted 30 minutes you would be taking pics until at least 7 pm which would leave an awkward time gap for your guests. What would they be doing from 5-7?
If you did your pics before say 2-4 you could start the Ceremony at 4:30 and have it done by 5 then by 5:30 you could be starting the reception. I think doing it this way would give your guest more time with you before it got late and people left due to work or school the next day.
Is there anyway you would consider changing to a less expensive venue so you could have this on a Friday or Saturday or even Sunday?
Anyone who wants to be there will find a way. No one should be judged in that manner, random stranger or not, if they choose a different day of the week. I've attended midweek weddings and they were just as festive as those held on a weekend, and they had impressive guestcounts (which the couple later stated was most everyone who was invited). Send out save the dates well in advance so that people are able to schedule time off work and make the arrangements they need to, and you should have no problem. Pick the date that works best for you and your budget, and anyone who doesn't like it doesn't have to attend but those who love you will be there.
I'd just plan on a small, intimate wedding with those you love. It's about the two of you anyway. Who cares if all the guests can't stay as long as those closest to you can be there?
Maybe, with your STD's, send out a little something cute about taking off work on Wednesday. Maybe it will plant the seed and some people will actually do it!
Maybe a bookmark:
Or a flyer:
@peasantsong:Do not worry!! The people that want to be there will no matter what. My friend had her wedding on a Friday and she had tons of guests leave really early. I thought that was strange, considering it was a Friday. I really think it depends on the people you are inviting. People that are not as close to you could send regrets if it causes an issue with work and can't get off. Not everyone has Saturdays and Sundays off either though.
Ok, I know you want reassurance but I think honesty is important. I am having mine at a venue that was not my first or second or third.....choice. It is what I can afford on a Saturday night. Its nice but not what I wanted. I just prioritized, if I want an awesome party atmosphere than I have to cater to my guest. I know as brides we think if they love us they have to make what we ask work. I am all for a friday or sunday wedding but I work very hard and would not make it to a tuesday wedding no matter how close I was to the bride(including sister). If tuesday is the ABSOLUTE only way then maybe just have the ceremony and dinner because pictures take a minimum of an hour and a half.
I definitely agree that you should do the pictures beforehand, and move the ceremony a bit later (like 6pm). It would be inconsiderate to ask your guests to leave work early and show up at 4:30, only to have them wait around while you take pictures. You can also skip the cocktail hour and go straight to dinner, so there's more time for dancing before people have to leave.
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We're getting married on a Tuesday. According to various threads and comments I've read on various websites, this means that less than half our guests will come and the ones that do will leave at 8pm. The more comments I read about it, the more I want to cry!
The thing is, we're getting married on a Tuesday purely for financial reasons. Friday through Sunday at our venue is $900. Monday through Wednesday is $300 and they don't hold events on Thursdays. You see? Holding our event on a weekday is saving $700! We're on a serious budget and that's a lot of money to us! Our guest list is small - 70 people, family and close friends only. But if only half our guests show up that means only 35 people and in that case why even rent a venue at all? And if they all leave at 8pm why am I even booking a DJ? Our ceremony will begin at 4:30pm, cocktail hour will begin at 5pm, Reception will begin at 6pm, dinner served at 6:30pm... if everyone leaves at 8pm there will be no dancing and I really want dancing.
I guess the purpose of the post is for reassurance. I'm becoming more and more distraught over this and I need someone I don't know (someone not biased because they love me) to tell me I'm not being inconsiderate and that there is a chance I will have more than 35 guests and that the reception will last until 9:30pm at least.