- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
Hi bees. I’m an American bride living in Northern Ireland and getting married here. I’ve been having an absolute nightmare trying to get certain things for the wedding based on cultural fashion and wedding differences, etc. and now THIS – I’m not sure if it’s the attitude of businesses culturally or if this is normal but it’s driving me crazy and bringing the inner Bridezilla out!!!
Nowhere WANTS to host my reception!
I just got rejected by a venue!! We would be paying over £300, probably closer to £400, to rent their room for the afternoon until the end of the night, for their platters of catering, to buy wine & champagne & sodas for the dining guests (wedding guests only which is about 40 people). Around the celebration time we’d have at least 130 people total, and probably more as we haven’t even sent the invites for the reception only guests yet. Not to mention since it’s in a bar like venue, they would be making countless amounts of money from our guests buying from the bar all night (this is pretty standard here – and open bar in Ireland is a horrible idea unless you want to break the bank, hehe!) and another £45 to use a sound tech.
I was already wary yesterday when they had an issue with me not filling the room. Why would it matter if I’m paying you for it?! They pretty much “threatened” that if the room wasn’t full, they would open it up to the public at 10:30pm right in the middle of my wedding reception!!!
I was meant to speak with the head man in charge of the place but have never gotten a chance to talk to him (this is after they said they’d call Monday and never did so I rang yesterday and got even more bad attitude mentioned above) and now I won’t…the same woman called back and rejected our enquiry!
She said they’d book us the smaller room but it’s 70 people max and won’t hold all the room for dancing, etc!
I don’t know if I’m more hurt or enraged right now. I am so used to places in America jumping through hoops for business that the attitude here is shocking me. I’ve been warned by all my family and friends here that if I try to get angry or sassy (the American way of getting service sometimes – I was a retail manager for seven years, I know all about it >< ) I will be told to simply f*ck off. That no one wants to bargain with you, either. It even goes down to “you get what’s on there” when it comes to menus at places – forget about swapping ingreidents, sides, or holding anything!
I am so worn out with trying to book the reception (this place was our first choice and no word back from our second and third) that if the wedding weren’t in November I’d be trying to borrow a backyard to throw the reception in.
Is this normal or am I a victim of culture shock with this part of planning? 🙁