Post # 1
How did you all handle it? I am so anxious this year. I turn 30 next Sunday. I guess I have always built it up in my head. Not necessarily turning 30 persay but being in my 30s. My mom died at 33 from uterine cancer so I’m pretty sure my issues are stemming from that. I just feel like this sense of dread and I’ve never really felt that about any birthday before. Ideas or similar issues and how to deal with this?
Post # 3
I turned 30 this year and it didn’t even phase me! I love being 30 and I do think it has a lot to do with perpective – I have so much more ‘perspective’ now than I did in my 20’s!! And more money, more clothes, a nice house and a pretty car and Husband! LMAO! It’s like being 20 but with more prosperity (which I earned in my 20’s) ;).
Im sad to hear about your mama – that is hearbteaking 🙁
my mom had cancer and had a full hysterectomy by the time she was 35. Thank the Lord she survived it. It does sit in the back of my as far as my own health and fertility is concerned.. But my mom is a lifetime smoker and had 4 kids in her 20’s, all of which she raised on her own. I think her illness definitely stemmed from her lifestyle and stress. I still go in for regular paps every year, just to be safe. When caught early cervical and uterine cancer patients have a high survival rate.
Post # 4
@starsinthesky: I turned 30 the day after my older cousin’s wedding…to a girl younger than me. My husband (who was my boyfriend at the time) couldn’t come, so I spent the night drinking with my parents…and then crying at midnight. IT WAS NOT FUN…but turning 29 was worse. I cried so hard that night that my boyfriend (now my husband) had to pull over and console me before we even got home!!!
It sucked being just a girlfriend…and not engaged…and not even living with my boyfriend…and also not having a good job. But things started looking up almost immediately. My horrible boss left, my boyfriend started looking for a house so we could move in together, et cetera et cetera. Turning 31 was easy, and 32 was no big deal at ALL.
As far as ages of people at their deaths…I worry about my mom and dad, because my grandmother was 70 when she died. So my mom is 65. That’s scary! But it’s unrelated. My mom is not my grandmother. They weren’t even related (my grandma was my dad’s mom). You are related to your mom, but you’re not her. AND…dwelling on what MIGHT happen will only cause stress. Instead, focus on being healthy, etc, and having a kick ass party next week!!! Do you have plans?
Post # 5
@starsinthesky: I was 33 on Thursday and I’m finding 30s to be the best decade so far.
Post # 6
I loved it! I don’t know, 30 just felt very grown up to me.
Post # 7
30 may not be middle aged, but it is the end of youth, and a time when we reflect on what we have achieved during our 20s. I found it hard because I haven’t achieved that much professionally, but personally I guess I’ve done OK.
Still just a number though. It doesn’t really change much in your daily life.
Post # 8
@starsinthesky: I’d say enjoy it! I hated my 20s and so far being in my 30s has been great (I just turned 34). Welcome! The best is yet to come!
Post # 9
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@starsinthesky: my big sis died at 20, and i dreaded having a life. But after i turned 21, I knew I could have anything and everything ahead of me. Enjoy it, life is too short to worry about the ‘what ifs.’ we dont see it, but sometimes we push away all the possibilities ahead of us. you have loads ahead of you
Post # 10
It scared me a little too – mostly because I turned 30 single and called my parents crying telling them that there was something wrong with me that I hated every single guy i went on a date with and that I was going to live the rest of my life alone.
The whole year I was 30 I went about trying to make this a positive thing. I got a new haircut, bought an apartment in Manhattan, and it was so fun. It was a positive thing, I wasn’t just trying. I stopped going on match.com and just worried about me.
Then at 31 I met my now FI and I’m getting married at 33 I LOVE MY 30s!!!!!
Post # 11
@starsinthesky: I’m sorry you lost your mum so young.
My 30s have been amazing. Seriously. My 30th birthday has been the best birthday so far. I celebrated (single) with my girlfriends. And this decade just keeps getting better and better, with so much more ahead of it.
Happy Birthday (tomorrow). I hope you’re able to enjoy it and embrace your 30s. IMO, they’re so much better than your 20s.
Post # 12
I’m 34 now but I clearly remember turning 30 and it was NOT fun. Not sure why it upset me so much, but I was kinda depressed for a few days. Now I love my 30s and they have actually been the best years of my life!! I have so much self-awareness now and these last few years have been truly amazing.
Post # 13
Thanks everyone. I know that I don’t have anything to seriously be freaked out about but I always envisioned having a family by now & although we are going to start in the next year it isn’t what i wanted. My back injury and the fact that I’m not healing right even after surgery is depressing. Between that and the dread of ending up like my mom who died was getting to me. I think that overall though this decade will be the best. My 20s were hard and so I am trying to be positive now that I turned 30 (yesterday). Just need to keep the positvity going. You all talking about your own experiences with your 30s have helped a lot.
Post # 14
@starsinthesky: I turned 31.5 years ago and I thought I’d have some huge freak out and I didn’t. There were some things that I’d thought I’d have nailed down by 30 and did not, but I sure did alot of living and enjoyed my 20’s and those things that I didn’t have nailed down yet are getting closer and closer to betting nailed down every day.
I’m way more awesome at 30 then I was at 20. I know myself more, I’m secure and I know what I want more than 20 year old Nambi ever was. I’m a grown up now, and it’s great 🙂
Post # 15
@starsinthesky: Actually my existential crisis came at 25, so perhaps that’s helped my transition a little better too.
Post # 16
@starsinthesky: honestly turning 30 for me was a big freak out! it started about 6 months before i turned 30! i just felt very unsettled in my personal life which is why I think I felt like i did, my career was progressing but my personal life was at a standstill! i turned 31 in Dec this year and was sooooo happy to wave goodbye to that year! i think its how you handle it as a person though. For me i had set all this milestones and goals that i assumed i would have hit by 30 and i didn’t. I’m hard on myself in general when it comes to stuff like that. my big concern was kids, i wasn’t engaged at 30 so i knew for sure they were another couple of years away still, and i just worked myself up into a frenzy! i’m loving 31 so far though i am waaaaay calmer! i think i’m like ya know what, what will be will be! a wise person before told me ” whats meant to be, won’t pass you by”