Post # 1
My FI and I both work in event planning/special events – we have a lot of useful contacts out there. If we were getting married local to where we work we’d probably be utilizing most of them for the wedding, however we’re getting married about 2 hours away. There’s a DJ my FI frequently works with who has offered to do our wedding for FREE because FI sends so much business his way.
I cannot for the life me accept that kind of offer. Am I crazy? I’m so appreciative that he has offered us this, but I just don’t feel comfortable accepting that service at no cost. I worry about him not pulling through in the end because he’s not getting any money out of us. I worry about the whole “you get what you pay for” thing even though I know he’s a great DJ/MC. It already stresses me out thinking of what could wrong without any money binding him to our wedding.
I’ve sent him an email seeing if we can work out some sort of fee – whether it’s half of what he normally charges or what but I’m hoping I don’t offend him!
Am I handling this the right way?
Post # 3
@rachberlin: I would still sign a contract and have him take a small fee. My best friend is doing our DJing and I am still paying him industry standards because I felt like you. I didn’t want it to come back to bit me. He still gave me a discount but we also signed a contract just in case.
My advice would be to sign the contract and just tell him that you want to make sure that as a professional he gets some sort of compensation for his time.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I’d accept the offer and then tip him well. It sounds like he is really thankful for your FI’s help.
Post # 5
I’d accept the offer and give him a good tip as well. He likely doesn’t want to lose business with your fiance and will do a good job for you
Post # 6
perhaps he considers it to be like free advertising since he might assume many of the guests would also be in the event planning business (your collective coworkers, clients etc).
I’d accept, sign a contract, and tip generously or offer some sort of gift
Post # 7
@rachberlin: Accept. Sign a contract for date and cost (or lack thereof). TIP HIM. 🙂