Post # 1
So I promised myself that I’d be positive in 2014. Well, that lasted 6 days…
My best friend just called to say that she’s expecting her 2nd baby. And I don’t think she meant to hurt me when she said, “oh yea, and we weren’t even trying. I didn’t realize I was late until 1.5 weeks after my period didn’t show up. I’m like clock work, so I don’t know why I didn’t realize I was late.” Her news hit me like a ton of bricks. I am thrilled for her and her family. I did my best to choke back the tears during the call.
My husband and I have been trying for 8 months now (4 cycles. I have super long cycles) and each time I waited [im]patiently for 2WW… I got off the phone and bawled. I called my husband, who was super busy at work, but he let me cry it out. He just listened and confirmed that our timing will come and it will be that much sweeter…
My glass is half empty today.
Post # 3
I am so, so, sorry. I hope you don’t feel guilty for feeling the way you do. That must be really tough. Your husband sounds like he handled it super sweetly. FX for your BFP really really soon.
Over Christmas, I was in church for a baptism with this absolutely gorgeous little boy named Wyatt. The parents shared their story about how long it took them to conceive (1.5 years) but how loved and worth every minute of trying and sadness at lack of conception that their beautiful baby boy was. There wasn’t a dry eye in the church.
ETA – I hope you realize the intent of my post above was nothing religious, just providing the setting for the story I witnessed.
Post # 4
@NowandLater: Did she know that you have been TTC? I’m so sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way, but I know there are plenty of bees on here that can relate to this, you’re not alone! Hope you’re feeling positive again soon…
Post # 5
I am so sorry. That is just sucky. I hope that your hope returns quickly. Don’t feel guilty about your reaction. It is perfectly normal. So very very sorry.
Post # 6
@NowandLater: That is the worst. I am so sorry. It is totally okay to be envious! I am totally envious of everyone who has a baby or is pregnant and everyone that has a cycle that is less than 45 days!
Post # 7
Thank you ladies. Yes, my friend knew we have been trying…
@MrsBaldEagle: I know what you mean. My cycle is all OVER the place. Last couple of months, it’s been steady at 49 days.
@kate02121: oh, I know. It’s nice to hear that not everyone has it easy. Not knowing their background doesn’t mean most couples have it easy when TTCing.
Thank you ladies for being my rock today…
Post # 8
@NowandLater: Hugs. Your husband is right. When your time is here it will be the sweetest, most perfect timing.
Post # 9
Some people have no clue how awfui ttc can be. I used to be that person. I conceived my babies first try. Then, it all switched. I went through secondary infertility for 2.5 years, along with a mmc at 8 weeks. They don’t have a clue, seriously. Your friend may find herself in your shoes one day. I’m so sorry she was so insensitive and rude. 🙁
Post # 10
I’m so sorry. I am in a similar situation, 6 months trying with no luck, and have had quite a handful of friends announce in that time. Several of them bragged about how it was so easy and it worked first try. They really have no clue how insensitive that is for people who are not that lucky. I don’t wish these problems on anyone, but it’s not fair that some people have it so easy and some don’t. We are married, have a house, financially stable, and more than ready but none of that matters. Baby dust to you and all!
Post # 11
@NowandLater: I’m sorry, everyone having issues conceiving can relate. My friends are really the sweetest, most caring people.. I love them..but they know all about my struggles TTC and still manage to say the stupidest things around me. I try to just ignore it because I know they aren’t saying it to hurt me but sometimes I just want to scream ” YEAH, I GET IT. YOUR FERTILE! BUT NO, YOU ACTUALLY CAN’T GET PREGNANT BY YOUR HUSBAND JUST LOOKING AT YOU, SO HOW BOUT YOU JUST SHUT UP ALREADY!”
😉 your venting is always welcome here. I’ve had my share of cries too.
Post # 12
@NowandLater: I know how you feel it seems like everyone around me is getting pregnant except for me. A friend of mine is on her third baby and says she has had no problems trying to conceive and it happens right away for her. There is a girl at my work right now who is a miserable person to start off with and I wish I could be happy for her but she is just not a nice person and to top it off I am super jelous. I am sorry you are going through this. Think positive thought and it will happen soon for you.
Post # 13
@SJ77: Thanks!! It is hard hearing about friends getting pregnant, and especially challenging since I want to be happy for them, but I secretely wish I was one of them…
Post # 14
@NowandLater: Just chiming in to send some more sympathy your way. I hope I’m not being insensitive as I’ve only been off bc for 3 cycles, but I’ve felt a lot of stress from the word go because I’m a lot older (33) than I hoped I’d be trying for my first baby and feel like I haven’t got time for things not to work, especially as I’d love 2 children!
I think friends can be very guilty of not thinking sometimes regarding fertility subjects. I had one friend (2 years younger than me and has already finished having her family with a 4 year old and a 1 year old) basically laugh at me for being worried about my age. Another (again a year younger than me) ‘cutely’ sent me a cryptic message about how she’d ‘tried for my birthday …!’ (a few days after AF had started on the cycle I was desperate to get a bfp on to have a baby before I turned 34) to tell me a couple of days later that she was expecting baby number 2 the day before my birthday. First time trying for her again and she only ‘bothered testing’ to check what medication she could take for a headache. Managed not to cry in front of her.
Post # 15
@NowandLater: Yup but hang in there beasue your turn will come… I keep sayin gthat to myself too but all we can do is be positive and try.