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I have a birthday coming up in less than two weeks....and it's a big one.
I don't want to hear the words, "thirty", "dirty", "old", or anything else like that....I barely even want to hear "happy birthday" at this point. I also kind of want to deactivate my facebook for a couple weeks so my aging goes unnoticed, haha.
I swear I'm usually not a giant wuss like this, but I'm having a really hard time dealing with it! I can't put my finger on what my problem is. I still look very young for my age and I've accomplished most of what I wanted to do by now (I'm maybe feeling about a year behind in the marriage-and-babies department, but that's ok). My Mom is the kind of lady who has never dyed her hair; she doesn't wear make-up, and her motto with age has always been, "If you don't have an age, you're dead!" and I know she's right. I know that I'm beyond lucky to be turning thirty with my health, a house, my FI, and a happy life. I AM counting my blessings....I'm just having a hard time with the number.
Did any of you 30-40+somethings (or 29 year olds like me) have a hard time with this milestone?
*Note: this post isn't meant to offend anyone older than 30 and I'm not saying it's "old" - I'm just feeling insecure about it personally!
Also, if you've just turned 20, please don't come on here and be all like, "OMGZZZ when I turned 20 I felt the exact same waaaaaaay!" ahaha or I will have to whack you with my cane. :P
I'm 40 ... will turn 41 in March. I remember 30 very well but for some reason, 30 didn't bother me ... but 31 sure did (it's just that much "over" 30, I guess). Honestly, as I'm now 40, age doesn't bother me in the least, and I feel as though I'm getting better with age (and I don't look my 40 years....or feel it either).
It's easy for me to say - EMBRACE it - but seriously, it's just a number. What's more important is how you feel and how you look (being healthy). It sounds like you're doing pretty well for a 30 year old - so let it happen and celebrate!
@Juliepants: I'm turning the big 3-0 in a month and I am not handling it very well at all. Thankfully, my birthday falls on a holiday weekend, so I can spend it wallowing and crying in bed. haha
So here's the deal: Being in your 30s is AWESOME! Really, it is! I had no issues with turning 30 (or 31), and 32 is just around the corner for me. Honestly, it's been really good, and all of the turbultent 20s crap is a blessedly distant memory. Your 30s are great because you've figured out who you are, gotten yourself on more stable ground, have the necessary perspective to realize that most of the stuff you used to freak over is really just small potatoes in the scheme of things, and are in a really good spot to enjoy life.
I cried the whole week I turned 30. I yelled at everyone and told them no cake. The office got me a cake and my friend told me to prepare me. I yelled at her so they brought it into the meeting and said "it's someone's birthday, we're not going to say who, but happy birthday" and put the cake down. haha Seriously, I was a mess. I was good up until my 33rd bday. Now every bday i whine about. Last year when I turned 34 I work up that morning thinking "oh $hit, I'm going to be 35 next year." Luckily I'm so distracted by the wedding I hardly notice I'll be 35 in 2 weeks. But I'm going to go drink now...haha. ugh.
I turned 30 in May and for some reason I wasn't as bothered by turning 30 as I was going from 19 to 20.
But I still can't believe that myself and my peers are 30. Wasn't high school like, yesterday? :(
Happy early Birthday. Don't be a party pooper like me and NOT celebrate; I wish I would have! Jessica Simpson said this quote and while she usually doesn't say anything I find profound (LOL) I really liked it: "I'd rather be a young 30-year old than an old 29 year old" It totally makes sense to me.
I am 32 and I can tell you for a fact that you will enjoy your thirties WAYYYYY more than your twenties. In your 30's you know who you are and you are much more settled and confident in who you are and what you believe to be true about yourself and others. I wouldn't go back if I could.
I was not happy about turning 30 for months beforehand.
But in the weeks and days leading up to my birthday my FH, future family-in-law, and my family made such a big deal of it (and told me how young I was and how amazing one's 30's are compared to one's 20's), that Icouldn't help but look at it positively.
The day of was an incredibly treat: my FH had over-the-top adventures planned for us all day.
All that made it not the sad day that I worried about, but an incredibly special transition to my 30's. I say embrace the celebration - cake makes it easier.
I'm not close to any milestone but I have a hard time with my birthday, it's that time of the year when I get all depressed, so I take my birthday off FB 3 days before the day every year, no one ever notices is my BD so I avoid those virtual congratulations.
I am 28 :( and I am dreading turning 29 and 30 heck I dreaded turning 28! I don't know what it is either. People think I am 18 all the time and at work they ask if I am an intern, but still I don't like the fact that I am 28 and getting older. I don't want to be 30. I think maybe it is because you can no longer say you are in your 20's. So don't feel bad you aren't the only one having issues with it. I sometimes forget how old I am when people ask I will say 27 then go oh wait I am 28, yeah I am 28. After 25 I just wanted to stop counting. I wish I could stay 25 forever.
Thank you ladies for the advice and laughs!
@JsDragonfly: I giggled about your wallowing and crying in bed. Let's hope we both do a bit better than that, haha!
@MrsProf: LOL @ I cried the whole week I turned 30. I yelled at everyone and told them no cake. Bahaha! Oh dear.
For all you wonderfully positive people who took it or are taking it like a champ, thank you for trying to cheer me a little. I guess part of the thing is that my twenties ROCKED. Like, seriously kicked ass. I had such a good time.
Hopefully the 30s will be filled with a different kind of fun (like the joy of kids).
Blarg, I'm still dreading people spamming my fb and email and cell phone with "thirty" talk. I'll take you up on your suggestions of booze and cake to help me along, haha.
I'm turning 30 in a couple months and I can relate. I'd also like to kinda downplay/ignore it, unfortunately it's on a Saturday so I feel obligated to do something.... maybe I'll just have a regular ol' "birthday party" and if anyone asks I can say, "well yes as a matter of fact I am turning an age that ends in zero - can you guess which one?" 
I'm not sure why I'm freaking out about it either. It might be that I sort of imagined that by the time I was THIS OLD, I would be a different kind of person, one who lacks some of my flaws (ie I'm kinda messy). But no, I'm still me, just older. 
I'm 27 so I have a few years to go, but I'm already dreading it. My husband says that our 30s are going to be awesome. We will be able to enjoy everything we worked so hard for in our 20s and have money to actually do stuff. Hopefully I'll share his outlook when I get there!
I turn 30 next July, and I'm so-so about it. The age doesn't scare me too much, but I always thought I'd be married before then.. especially given the fact that FI and I have been together since I was 18. LOL!
I just turned 40 and outside of the birthday curse that is always upon my birthday, I love it. I look damn good for 40 and cherish every minute of it, LOL. I even got to do the happy dance when I got carded the other day. I have no issues with the numbers what so ever, it is just one more year closer to retirement and that is when the fun begins 
I turned 30 this year and I joked with friends that I was turning 21 for the tenth time. :)
@brighteyedgirl: :-) I am in the same boat! Mr. Kiki bee and I have been together since I was 18 and he 19.
I turned 30 in August and had an amazing time! I have a few friends that are older than me who prepped me about turning 30 a few years ago by saying a lot of what's been said here. I would finally be in a place where I knew myself and what I wanted and being settled with myself. It's great to finally just "be" you know? Plus, I threw myself an amazing birthday party with a crazy cake so that really helped me to embrace the big 3-0.
I mean, how can you not be happy about turning 30 with a cake like this?
ETA: whoa, didn't mean to make this huge. I can't seem to resize it.
Dude - enjoy it! When I turned 30 my friends threw me this HUGE surprise party! It was great! And when my little sis turned 30, a bunch of us went to Key West for a long weekend - LIVE IT UP!
When you hit your 30's you realize that you canjust stop caring what other people think and just do whatever you want - it is GREAT!
(Oh, and sex is waaaay better in my 30's than it was in my 20's! - I no longer care about if my hips are too big or my boobs are too small!)
It's funny, when I was 29 I was looking forward to turning 30. Then when I finally did, I was TOTALLY depressed. Now that I'm 34, I look back at 30 like, aww, I was so young! So I just decided to try pretending I'm 38 for a few days, and then maybe I'll feel real young being 34!
Hint for feeling better about your age - hang out with more older friends. I hang out with all younger people, and it doesn't help. Then I hang out with people my age/older and it gives me better perspective.
I just turned 30 in October and it was awesome. First of all I had already accepted my age and kept forgetting for months leading up to my birthday that I wasn't actually 30 yet. Second, it was the perfect excuse to go on an expensive winetasting weekend with DH - something I had been wanting to do for years. It was an exciting month of events, DH even threw me a surprise brunch with all my friends.
lol I'm 22 but the comment about wacking us with your cane made me laugh out loud in the computer lab at my school haha.
30 is young :) I hope you find it easier to be turning 30 and it sounds like your life is really on track with the way you pictured it :)
I turned 30 over the summer and wasn't sure how I was going to feel about it. I had a fleeting moment where I was sad my 20's were over, because I had a ton of fun, but I am looking forward to my 30's too. I'm more stable and can still do all the fun stuff I wanted to in my 20's but couldn't afford. Okay not all the fun stuff, but more of it. I was pretty broke in my 20's.
I'll be 32 in March and honestly have never been happier. I didn't care one bit about turning 30; I certainly don't look it or feel it. DH friends who range from 23-28 all still can't believe I'm almost 32. There's no pressure in life, I know who I am, I'm settled and not trying to prove something or figure myself out. I always say you couldn't pay me to live my 20's again. As far as the babies thing, I could care less. Everyone has their own plan and no one should judge or make anyone feel old. I personally had no desire to be a young mom. I am perfectly happy being a first time mom at 35+.
yes i know how you feel because i felt the exact same way. and it really hit me like a week before. i was also really depressed on my birthday even though i went camping with my husband, something we love to do. i was literally hiding out in the tent and crying for part of the afternoon. i don;t know if it was because i was hungover, sad i was turning 30, or the fact that i had move from east to west coast and was desperately missing everyone back home. or a combination of everything. now i just feel old all the time. i also started get a couple of white hairs right before i turned 30 which didnt help. but even though i feel old - its more like because i find myself using "remember when things were like this" kind of statements. i also feel stuck on past technologies. other than that, i am doing ok with being in my 30s. i try to think about just how long my 20s were and how many experiences i had, so i have another decade of enjoyment like before i have to worry to about......here it is.....turning 40!
I turned 30 over the summer. For the most part I wasn't to upset about it. Most of my friends are in their 30s and kept telling me how much better it was going to be then my 20s - and honestly, I totally believe them! I had trouble in my early 20s figuring out who I was and what made me happy.
For me, the big concern was "am I where I want to be in life?". Well, yes and no. I'm marrying a great man and excited for a future. We moved to the state we hope to settle in. BUT I seem to be a perpetual student and therefore I haven't really started a career (although I've held many jobs). I'm finishing my MBA and hope this next job will be the start of a career I can enjoy and grow in. It may be late, but hopefully the time has been well spent gaining the knowledge I need to get ahead.
I really don't feel 30. I feel young and think I look it. I've still got big plans and I'm doing things to make them happen.
Try to enjoy your birthday and look forward to what is to come! Your 30's may be your best years yet - I expect mine to be :)
My dirty thirty is on the 16th! I wonder if yours is too, OP. I can't wait! I'm so excited about all of the wonderful things that this year will bring including being married, being a lawyer, and trying to make some beautiful babies! :)
I turned 30 the day after I got married. I did it that way on purpose! I was so dreading the "big 3-0" that I needed a huge distraction, and my wedding kept my brain off of it for the most part. It stinks...my DH is 3 years younger than me so there are times when I feel like "geesh...you're still just a pup in your 20's!!" (eh...he acts older than me, so it isn't that often, except when I bring up my ticking clock for having kids and stuff). For the most part, being 30 hasn't been bad though! I'm glad to be out of my 20's now...and on to a better, more stable chapter of my life!! Good luck and happy early birthday, Juliepants!!! :)
30 is the new 20! I 100% know that we get better with age. Every.single.day. I know this to be true. All of my friends and family are now 30+
Honestly, 30 is young, yet mature. It is a wonderful time. OH! I was randomly watching "family feud" and the question was "when is a woman in her prime?" The number 1 answer was age 30!
Am I making you feel better? :) Seriously though, reflect on all you have accomplished- like you said. In all honesty, I would never want to be 20 again, I feel so much less anxiety and more settled, knowing who I am and what I want. Peace. I hope you feel the same way.
You girls are all really fan-frigging-tastic, did you know that?
Thank you ALL for writing on here. I will come back to this thread on the 13th, read it, and then go kick some ass (only figuratively because otherwise I might throw my back out, bahaha).
I will also make a point of eating cake and getting drunk on a Tuesday. ;)
I'm turning 30 pretty soon after my wedding. I hate celebrating my birthday, so 30 won't be any different. I'm going to ask FH for a trip to a bed and breakfast for my b-day gift. I think a trip will distract me.
@Juliepants: I turn 30 next week, and FH just told me my present- we're going to Universal Studios in Orlando so I can visit the Wizarding World of Harry Potter!!!! Totally makes me feel so NOT 30 - sooooooo excited.
Hope you had a great day!
I turn 30 in a month and I am really excited. FH on the other hand seems to not be taking it so well though - his bday is the day after mine. We're both turning 30. I'm taking the weekend off, going to the spa, and having a party. I have recently really learned how to love life and embrace all of the ups, downs, and arounds. I love it and I love the life I've been blessed to lead. Not everyone makes it to 30, so I'm making a huge deal out of it for me and my FH!!!
I turned 30 this past summer and I planned a big 30th birthday trip with my FI to Barbados for 10 days. No way was I feeling sorry for myself while I was soaking up the sun and doing things on my bucket list (zip lining, snorkeling with turtles-I am PETRIFIED of water over my head). I think the trick is, plan something to look forward to on your birthday. You have to make a plan to do something fun and exciting, maybe something you've never done before/never had the guts to do. It sets the tone for how you look at turning 30s. So far, I am lovin' the 30s!
Just checked the dates, you've turned 30 already (unless I am losing my mind)! How did it go???
I am turning 30 in March. I really didn't think about it much, but now that it is a little over 2 months away, I think it's hitting me! I'm not upset in the sense that I'm getting "old," 30 is young and there are much scarier ages to turn (my mom is turning 60 in August!). For me, I get sentimental and I keep saying to myself that I won't ever be able to say that I'm in my twenties anymore, or that I'm a twenty-something. That part upsets me.
The day will land on a Saturday, and about 6 months ago my fiance asked if I would want a surprise party. Rather than sit home and cry about it, I figure it's an excuse to celebrate yourself and mark this milestone. Who wants to think back to it and have bad memories? We will all become older and look back at when we turned 30 and at that point, we will think that 30 was young and that we wished we were 30 again, so we may as well embrace it!
So many of you ladies have such positive outlooks - it's wonderful!
My 30th birthday wasn't so bad. I'll admit I shed a few tears at midnight, but I quickly followed that up with some chocolate ice cream, hahaha. I received a lovely jewellery set from my FI (pictured here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/as-promised-my-30th-birthday-jewellery-porn) and we went out to dinner at my favourite place. All in all, not so bad thus far! I still don't really like to hear it out loud, though, that I'm 30, haha. I'm sure I will adjust with time....and soon enough probably wistfully wish I were 30 again! :)
Oh I was mortified turning 25. A whole quarter of a century old, I went around saying! Then I was perturbed about turning 30 (I'm 31 now)
I suposse I'll be terrifed at 40 and petrified by 50.
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