Post # 1
So, bridesmaid is perhaps a bit of a misnomer. We’re having a very casual, barbecue wedding (but big, around 225). We both have a million siblings (well, I have 2, but FI has 5!). We have many, many friends who deserve to be part of our wedding party. We were never going to have an equal number of men and women. I just don’t think that stuff is as important as having the people we love–all of them!–with us. So welcome to my cast of thousands! 9 girls, 6 guys. We’re calling them our people. Instead of just standing with us, they’ll all be part of larger readings.
And in keeping with our casual air, I’m going to tell my girls to pick any dress they like–so long as it’s turquoise, preferably cotton or jersey, nothing shiny or sparkly. Here’s the board I’m sending them for inspiration! The boys will be in blue polos and khakis.
So, do you think they’ll like being able to pick their own dress? How do I keep involved with their decisions without seeming crazy?
Post # 3
Let them know that you get final approval. I did that with my girls in regards to hair and asked if they thought it was bridezilla and they said not at all, because only *I* know the final vision of my wedding and I have the right to veto! Then you know the color is right, too. lots of "teals" and "turquoises" out there. I’m loving that cocktail one on the bottom, 4th to the right. Love it.
Post # 4
I love those dresses. I’m sure your girls will pick good ones! –especially if you can show them which stores carry the ones you’ve featured. Could you organize an optional shopping trip? Or would that be too time consuming? I’m sure most bridesmaids would want to show the dress to the bride before committing to it, so hopefully yours will be ready to show you their choices. And if you want, you could even tell them you want to give the dress an okay before it’s decided.
Post # 5
My girls live all across the country: sisters and friends in Atlanta, Albuquerque, DC, Baltimore, Chicago, Raleigh! So, my plan is to have them send me an emailed picture of themselves in the dress when they buy them. That way I can keep my eye on the collection of blues and the types of dresses as people find things that they like.
I’m also sending cute little "cheat cards" with a mini version of this inspiration board, paint chips for colors, and fabric guidelines that they can fit in their bags to go shopping. I’m not real picky, but I know most people are better with guidance–and 9 girls need dresses!
Post # 6
I think the idea of sending paint chips would be a good idea since that would give them a very concrete idea of what colors you’re going for, since colors can look different on computers. But I would be sure to have them show you the dresses as they get them since there are so many different shades. I think with a little bit of direction it will look great!