Post # 1
Hello Bees, I’m in need of help trying to fix a little mistake my fiance has made. According to all the etiquette articles and advice, the groomsmen rent or buy their own tuxes. Well, my fiance did not know this and I recently found out that while he has not directly said it, heis groomsmen believe that we are covering the costs of the tuxes. Now, my fiance and I have a very strict budget ($3,500-4000). Our venue is costing us $2,500, the cake $350, dj is free, hair and make-up is free. We $650-1150 left for the caterer, florist, and photographer. My parents are paying for my dress. It is going to be hard to fit into our budget already, but it will be impossible if we have to cover the groomsmens tuxes as well. My fiance says he that since they believe this we’ll have to do it or get them upset with us and that we’ll just have to up the budget, even though it’ll be hard for us to afford. How can I fix this?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Kng2178: Well first off why do the groomsmen believe your FI is paying for the tuxes?
Post # 4
This is your FI’s responsibility.
If he hasn’t said anything to lead them to believe that you are paying for their tux rental, he has nothing to worry about. He can just email or text them all at the same time and let them know that they need to make arrangements to get fitted for their tuxes ( giving them the style information they require) and pay their deposit. “The rental place will let you know when your final payment is due.”
Post # 5
@mchitt329: I don’t know exactly why they believe this, but apparently it some conversation, his brother (best man) and his best friend, both eluded to how we were covering their tuxes and my fiance just nodded or something. I’m not sure on all the details, but fiance is 100% certain that this is what they believe, especially since he said something in agreeance. He feels really bad, especially because he thought that we were supposed to pay for the tuxes. He’s also scared about telling them that we can’t due to anxiety issues and because he’s scared that they’d drop out of the bridal party if they have to pay.
Post # 6
@Kng2178: We all are scared at sometime in our life. That doesn`t mean he gets to opt out of dealing with it. He made the mistake of nodding instead of speaking up when the subject was discussed.
He can tell them that he needs to clear up a misunderstanding, that you are not paying for their tux rental, just as you are not paying for the bridesmaids`dresses.
If your wedding date is accurate on your profile, there is lots of time before your wedding, but the sooner he does this the better. It will give them time to adjust their expectations and to budget for tux rental which is actually very reasonable compared to the money the bridal party spends.