Post # 1
im really panicking now- my fiance and his groomsmen are wearing tuxedos for our wedding, and somebody just told me that its NOT ok to wear a tuxedo during a daytime wedding, and that people would be snickering. our ceremony is at 1pm. our wedding is 1 month away. its too late to change it. i HATE the way morning coats look. its much TOO formal for me…. i thought a tuxedo with colorful neckties (without vests) would look more casual and daytime appropriate, almost like a suit. we couldnt afford for everyone to get matching or coordinating suits, and its not really possible to rent suits (at least when i tried to look into it)
so what are your thoughts? standard black tuxedos (notch lapel 2 button) with fun neckties and NO vest or cumberbund…. ok for an outdoor wedding at 1pm? we are going for a more dressy, formal feel anyway and my dress is quite dressy…
please i need some reassurance as the wedding approaches
Post # 3
I think that sounds beautiful! I am having tuxedos and my ceremony is at 2 PM. Sometimes you can’t control whether you have a daytime or evening wedding if your ceremony is in a house of worship or scheduled around a reception time.
As long as your guests aren’t in jeans, they will not be snickering. Every wedding I’ve ever been to, the guys have been in tuxes and they have been in the morning, afternoon and evening. I think that “rule” is dated.
Post # 4
Do what you like and can afford! It sounds like it will be lovely to me!
Post # 5
I’m having a 3pm wedding with tuxes (with an evening reception). I’m not thinking twice about it.
Post # 6
thank you guys, you are making me feel much better. i was quite upset to hear the judgemental tone of this person, telling me people would be snickering at my wedding. i seriously wanted to cry!
what do you advise we put the groom in now that you have an idea in your head of what the groomsmen will wear?
ivory necktie? will this look odd without a vest? i dont want groom to wear a vest if nobody else is….
our ceremony is at 1 and our reception is from 2:30-6:30 (on a sunday)
Post # 7
i’ve never heard that tuxedos aren’t worn to day time weddings. all the weddings i;ve been to have been in the afternoon and pretty much all of them wore tuxes..
Post # 8
I’ve never heard that! Fiance & his guys are all wearing tuxes w/ vests. Our ceremony is @ noon. Even if that was the case, we could care less…we’ll all look fab, who cares what time of day it is?!
Post # 9
Our ceremony is probably going to be at 1:30 in the afternoon and we are having tuxedos. I don’t think there is anything wrong with wearing them during the day at all.
Post # 10
I heard that too, but we’re still doing it. Our ceremony will be mid-afternoon in June, and I love the look of tuxes, so that’s what the men will be wearing. It’s your wedding…do whatever you want!
Post # 11
Our guys did tuxes for a 4pm wedding – sunset wasn’t until 8.
Post # 12
I’ve never been to a wedding where they DIDN’T wear tuxes, regardless of time of day. Technically the morning suit or regular suit may be “more” correct, but that is a pretty arcane tradition. I think you are just fine.
Post # 13
We’re doing tuxes for a 3pm wedding. I always thought that if it was an evening wedding everyone (guests included) had to wear tuxes and if it is in the afternoon it would seem strange for the guests to be that formal. I’ve never been to a wedding where the bridal party themselves weren’t in tuxes!
Post # 14
Generally, if your invitations indicated it was a formal wedding, then cutaway stroller coats should be worn by the men before 5 pm. However, if your invitations did not state that it was formal, then there is more leaway with mens attire. They can wear tuxedos for a wedding that is not formal in the traditional sense of the word.
Post # 15
don’t worry. We’re having tuxes for a 1 pm ceremony as well. However, it’s a Catholic wedding and we’re also going for a more formal type of look…my dress is more formal. The reception is at an elegant place. I’m not going to follow the rules…
Post # 16
@sugar610: There are black-tie rules and 75% of weddings in the US probably violate them when we put on our tuxedos for our daytime weddings. I know I’ll be breaking the day/night rule. I think the rule makes sense, but it’s just no longer practical. Morning Dress would be inappropriate for most of our modern receptions (taking place after sun-down). So what would the rule-makers have us do? Purchase/rent two different tuxedos? Schedule receptions for the afternoon? Battle ceremony venues for a post-sundown ceremony? You will rarely hear a proponent of the morning dress rule address this modern predicament. They just say, “But before sundown you should wear morning dress.” And I will say: what do I do at night… at the reception? And their robot ears begin to emit smoke.
The good news, sugar610 is that nobody knows these rules except your snooty little friend and a tiny percentage of the population. Of course, if you live in a country that’s a bit more fond of traditional clothing rules/customs, then yeah, you may have some snickering at your wedding. But not here in the States. Most people here can’t tell the difference between a three piece suit and a tuxedo. An even smaller percentage will know that there’s something called a Morning Coat.