Post # 1
What if the groomsmen and the father of the groom is delaying the process of tuxedo rental?
We are a month away from the wedding and we were told now is the busy time for weddings and we are pretty much last minute in the tuxedo rental. Everybody was there when this was explained to us. Everyone agreed they will call in the payment because one said he “didnt have the card” with him.
It’s been more than a week since and nothing has been paid or deposited yet so the order could not be processed.
I know we can jus pay it to make it easy but this is not the point and we are also out of money from planning this wedding.
Also, the bridesmaids have not failed to remind me that it cost them $200 for the dress so I shoouldnt have the type of bachelorette party I wanted.
THey want Limo, club, stripper
I want yoga, massages (good also for some who are covered with insurance) swimming at the hotel and stay in just us with a bottle of wine.
Is there something wrong with me?
Post # 3
@worriedconfusedbride: Your bridesmaids are being bitchy, honestly. You should have the bachelorette party YOU want. Their $200 isn’t an admission fee, and if they felt it was too much to ask of them, they should have said so, and asked you to pick out a cheaper dress, or declined to be bridesmaids. You would NOT be a bridezilla to make them have a nice, relaxing evening in with you as your bachelorette. To avoid conflict, maybe you can suggest you all get together for a Hallowe’en party with a limo and strippers. Don’t let them make you have a party you’re not interested in.
Sounds like maybe one groomsman can’t afford his tuxedo rental. Get your FI to just ask him if it’s a problem. Maybe he has a black suit and he can wear that, and you can cancel his. Maybe you can ask someone for help with the money to loan it to him. Maybe he’s just being a dick, and the groom should tell him “either you’re in the wedding, and putting in that rental payment tomorrow, or you’re not going to do it, and you’re out of the wedding. It isn’t personal. I don’t hate you, or think you’re a bad guy. There’s just not enough time left for me to be tactful about this.”
Post # 4
Honestly we came in 2 or 3 weeks before our wedding and got the last of the men together to get fitted. Where are you getting your tuxes from. We got ours from Mens Warehouse. They arrived on Tues before the wedding (wedding was on a Sat).
Post # 5
@lindseyl06: We are getting ours at Tuxedo Royale and picked the only gray tuxedo they have. I know that outfits should be secondary but I cannot also say it is not important. We are organizing a very formal event which I know now is a mistake.
Post # 6
@Duncan: I think maybe they are doing their best. But I am not understanding why they arent getting my point. That it will cost just the same. But having to swim at a hotel is longer period of time than wasting it on booze for a couple of hours at a club. THat’s not to say I dont do those stuff. I’ve done them for my birthdays etc.
BUt since they have told me that they dont want to spend way too much and I completely agree and I would never impose anything unreasonable, plus I do not really drink that hard anymore, that maybe relaxing and hanging out would be a nice way to celebrate.
They are letting me do the spa. so that will be three hours of their time and are only paying for their own service whatever kind they like.
I cant help but feel angry. sorry
Post # 7
@worriedconfusedbride: Maybe you should pay for one, inexpensive spa treatment, and let them buy others if they want. Like pay for a manicure, if you cam afford the $200.