Post # 1
I just recently got engaged and am starting to really plan out some details with my fiance.
He does not like tuxedos. He has said that from the beginning. He hasn’t tried any on recently, but has looked online at some. He doesn’t like the satin lapels. My bridesmaid dresses are long formal gowns. I am scared that the groomsmen and my groom won’t look very special or formal if they are only in suits. I have tried to convince him to wear a tux, be he doesn’t want to, and he should decide to wear what he wants naturally.
My father wants to wear one down the isle. Looking his best to give me away. Is it wrong to have him wear a tux and not the groom?
Are suits really not as formal looking as I think they aren’t? Ideas/Opinions.
Post # 3
I think suits can look very formal if they’re worn with nice shoes, they fit extremely well, a vest, and especially with a bout. Perhaps you can still do bowties if you like that look, that’s definitely more formal with a suit as well. Dark colors also tend to look more formal. You might even be able to get a shirt that has the tuxedo like buttons and collar. If it’s only the shiny lapels that he doesn’t like.
I’d say if your FI and GM’s aren’t wearing suits then your dad probably shouldn’t either, it might look a bit odd.
Post # 4
Not all tuxes have satin lined lapels either. I agree with what Kayla Way said about making suits more formal. It can be done. Just play around with the idea and see what the two of you like best. Maybe you two can go look at both choices in person so that you can get a better idea.
I think it would look kind of odd if your dad were wearing a tux while the guys were in suits. If I were a guest I’d think it would look like he was trying to upstage the groom.
Post # 5
Honestly, the difference between some tux styles now and suits are so minimal most people would not even notice the difference.
My FI liked a tux that he took 3 minutes explaining to me why it was a tux, not a suit. On that particular design, it came down to the shiny lapels (which I don’t like.)
Suits can definitely be more formal. I second PPs, though–nix the tux for your dad.
Post # 6
All the guys in my wedding party, including DH, all wore suits: nobody noticed the difference & I thought they looked really sharp! Kinda wish Mr Rugbee had adjusted his jacket though!
Post # 7
I have the opposite problem! I want FI and the groomsmen to wear suits- I love that look. FI insists on wearing a tux. I am definitely letting him do what he wants in this case because I feel like it’s his day to wear what he wants. As far as your dad goes, I think it might be a little out of place for him to wear a tux if the groom is wearing a suit. However, if it were my dad I’d let him do it. It’s a big day for your dad too and if that’s what he wants to wear- why not! My dad is wearing his own tux and it won’t match my FI and groomsmen, but it doesn’t bother me at all.
Post # 8
Per the traditional rules, a tuxedo is only for the evening. If your wedding takes place before dinner, a suit is a better option.
See the semi-official guide here: http://putthison.com/post/334425916/weddingattireformen
Post # 9
@Professor6pack: Traditions change over time. After all, men used to also wear powdered wigs. If the bees and their FII’s want to wear tuxedos in the daytime, so be it.
Post # 10
Also? This thread is almost a year old and the OP is already married.