- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2015
I am having a hard time with this one- any advice and opinions are much appreciated! I am not a fan of suit or tux rentals for weddings- Men’s Warehouse for example. Too big, too lose, cheap fabric…yuck. I’ll post an article outlining the specifics of Men’s Warehouse tux rentals at the bottom of my question. The groom is a fashionista so he’ll shell out the money to buy something nice. His dad, brothers and 2 groomsmen are in the wedding party but I’m uneasy with the idea of asking them to spend $400+ for a one outfit for one day- I’ll explain the dynamics.
His family doesn’t have an absorbent amount of extra cash flow. His dad and older brother would most likely never use the suit/tux because it’s not practical- we’re the last to get married in the family for a while, most of the weddings we’ve attended on his side have been very casual and the type of work they do, it would never require them to wear a suit or tux. His younger brother is in HS…he’s still growing! His best man is a scrimper…but he’s got the means to spend that type of money. His other groomsman is in med school and of course has zero money to spend at the moment- but I’m sure his parents would help him cover any costs. Maybe I just answered my own question lol.
I’ve started adding up all of the costs (rehearsal dinner, suits, mother of the bride dress, shoes, etc.) and it’s making me super uncomfortable. I want them to match the formal feel of our ceremony and reception venue…and of course I want them to look FABULOUS. My questions are below. I’m in Richmond, VA by the way.
1. Are there great formal wear rental companies out there that I’m missing?
2. Should I just suck it up and have them in rentals (no one will notice or care?)?
3. Would it be insulting if my family discretely offers to help pay for some of the grooms’ outfits if we do go down the purchase route?
4. Is it selfish to ask his family to pay for a suit/tux they will probably only use it once? (I know, I know, the ladies always have to buy dresses, shoes ect.- that seems pretty standard, but renting a tux seems standard for the guys)
5. Is there a compromise?
In closing, I realize I’m making huge assumptions and I could definitely talk to the groom, but I would like to see some other perspectives before delving into this subject with him.