Post # 1
So long story short, I figured all the men in the wedding would wear black tuxes, white shirts, and then different color ties depending on their roles. Well, when we went to pick out the colors, FI decided that he wanted the groomsmen to wear black shirts instead. Perfectly fine.
His dad is the best man, so obviously he’s included in the groomsmen and the attire they’re wearing. He’s now throwing a hissy fit because he’s too skinny to wear all black and he’ll look like a bean pole and my dad gets to wear a white shirt why can’t he blah blah blah. O.m.g. It’s your son’s wedding. Be happy. I finally told him he could either back down as best man and we will order him the white shirt and black tie just like my dad or he can stop complaining and remain the best man and wear a black shirt and wine tie. Well now I’m just being rude.. I can just imagine the whole day he’s gonna be complaining about how skinny he looks. Sorry, bridezilla moment 🙂
So, advice on what to do from here? Just let him whine? Did any of you have the groomsmen with black shirts under the tux? Mind posting pictures so I can reassure myself that it will look just fine?
Post # 3
@lambjo: Ugh, I’m sorry you’re dealing with this! It’s amazing how picky the guys get, isn’t it? I would try showing him some of these photos to try and convince him. If not, let him wear white.
We eloped, so no bridal party period for us, but I did find you a few inspiration photos! I hope they help out. Personally, I think it’s an awesome look! I think the groom in white and the rest of the bridal party in black looks especially nice, but if you can’t get his dad to budge I would leave it. Pick your battles. 😉
Post # 4
Wow. Thank you for going above and beyond what I had wanted! 🙂 They do look very nice. This really isn’t a battle to pick though as the place we ordered them through called me the other day to finalize our order so they could call it in and we’ve told him that. It’s just one of those things.. I feel like he’s being really childish. Of course, I’ve had about nothing but problems with that side so I’m not expecting him to get over it. Just figured I’m emotional and there’s going to be a rational thinker out there with advice 🙂 haha. My thing is, it’s a shirt that’s barely showing. I’m not asking him to dance around in a frilly tutu!
Post # 5
@lambjo: That combination of clothes you described is something I would not wear with one exception: If I was part of a wedding party, and that’s what I was supposed to wear. then I’d shut up, and do what the groom asked me to do.
Stick to your guns; you’ve given him two perfectly valid options.
Post # 6
my husband’s father was very paticular about what he wanted to wear because he wanted to stand out…so much so that he changed into a very loud outfit for the reception…whatever. his dealie bob. later folks were like wtf is wrong with him, he does realize it’s his son’s day and not his?