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Hey Bees,
So my boy and I are making a list of things we would like to buy for our home after the wedding (as most our guests are japanese and in japan you give money as a wedding gift) so we know we will have a nice chunk of change to fix up the place.
HE wants to get a TV for our bedroom. and dont get me wrong, I love cuddling in bed and watching a movie BUT I heard that its not really healthy to have a TV in the bedroom. It can interrupt good sleep, etc.
So do you ladies have a TV in the bedroom, if not what is your reasoning?
Yes, but here's the deal--it goes off by 12. We still haven't decided if we're sticking with this though, honestly we might try it without the tv when we officially move in together
NO WAY! I am a very light sleep and at times during the year suffer from insomnia and my doctor told me to not have a tv in the bedroom. Not to mention to me, it also kind of zaps the energy out of the room even when it's not on. FI wasn't fond of this but I seriously put my foot down. Anywhere else in the house is fine, but not the bedroom.
We don't have a tv in our bedroom, and FI is really against ever having one. Our reasoning was originally just that we had his TV from his old place, and it's a really nice big flat screen. We didn't have another tv, and so didn't think about it. After not having one in the bedroom for going on two years now, I think we'll keep it that way for the forseeable future. It really makes the bedroom just for "us" time, for reading/talking/etc. It does mean that we spend more time in the living room than in the bedroom, but it also means that we don't split up to watch tv in two separate rooms--we always watch together. It CAN get annoying, esp when FI wants to watch his daily two hours of sports, but we make do.
We do not have a TV in the bedroom, I would have to find the study, but there was research done that found that married coupled with TV's in their bedrooms had less frequent sex and reported lower levels of satisfaction in their relationship. The study also found that couples with TV's in the bedroom reported less time spent communicating with their spouse.
I can think of one or two things that are more important/fun to do in the bedroom than watch TV ;o)
We just have an old tv in the bedroom. Sometimes we watch movies in bed, but most of the time, we only use it in the morning to watch the news. I think this is a personal preference thing.
It's funny that you posted this, because I was just thinking of doing the same. My FI wants a TV in our bedroom and I don't. We don't currently have a TV in it (point for me!) but he keeps bringing it up. There are several reasons I have for not wanting the TV in the bedroom. They are as follows:
we have one but it's rarely on. my husband takes FOREVER to get ready for bed, so occasionally i'll watch when i'm waiting for him, but we just turn it off right when he lays down.
We don't. We're too plugged in during the day as it is, so we wanted to keep our bedroom for bedtime activities. Like sleeping. ;)
We have one and honestly I hate it! I dnt believe there should be a TV in every room of the house, just not how I was raised. I am letting it be for now but once we move in 2 weeks it will not make its way back into the bedroom. It doesnt effect our intimacy or anything like that but I have strong family values and the FI wasnt really raised with sitting at the table for dinner and stuff like that and believe that there should be some family time not everyone in a separate room watching tv, just my opinion.
We have a tv in the bedroom, but we don't really watch it that much. I don't think it impacts our sex life or anything. Maybe if it was on all the time it would, but most of the time we don't even notice it there.
I've always been in the Definitely Not camp but I think that might change. We have the space in our new house to put the ellipical in the bedroom and I'm much more likely to go for longer if I have something to distract me. We also frequently fall asleep watching Netflix on the laptop. It would be REALLY nice to not have to worry about falling asleep with it on the bed and knocking it off in the middle of the night!
IF we do get one for the bedroom it will be a small flat screen that I will try and disguise in some way. I saw a picture once where the tv was wall mounted in the center of a cluster of photos. It took me awhile to even realize it was there! And I fantasize about having a tv that is a mirror when it's not in use. But I don't think technology is quite there yet.
And see the thing is for us also is that we have this couch that he bought from a friend. he paid 900 for this PIECE OF CRAP MODERN COUCH. which means its IMPOSSIBLE to sit on it. sitting on the floor is more comfortable then this couch.
We have a TV in the living room already, its not top of the line but its nice enough. I really want to buy a nice couch instead. but hes not crazy about this idea. its kind of frusturating!!
We do, and always have had, a TV in our room. We work opposite shifts, and I fall asleep with it on when I am alone. He turns it on while getting ready for work. We lay in bed and watch movies, etc.
I think the study is silly - we aren't lacking in the sex department, and are happy as can be :) To each their own I guess!
OK I'm not a fan of it either, but I think my gripe is more about aesthetics. I told him I'd agree to a TV in the bedroom as long as it can be hidden in an armoire while not in use. He has one now and it hasn't negatively affected us and I have to admit, it is pretty comfy to watch movies and relax in bed.
We have a TV in the bedroom. We only watch it if one of us is super sick and bed-ridden or if we're feeling super lazy and want to watch a movie. We never watch it before going to bed and never go to bed with the intention of watching TV.
You should add a poll!
We don't have one in our bedroom-- we like to just keep it for quiet time, snuggling, sleeping, etc. The rest of our lives are filled with enough distracting electronic gadgets.
I have only read the OP - - - NO TV IN THE BEDROOM, THERE ARE NO IF's AND's or BUT's - - - that is my rule and a battle that I will not ever bend on. There is a TV in the family room and a TV in the kitchen. In our bedroom we can talk, read, do crossword puzzles, etc... There are too many other things to do while winding down - watching television is not one of them. I am a huge 'communication is key' person and in the bedroom which is our room with no boundaries I do not want the TV to interfere with communication. It does that for me - for my vision....
@Emshaw, and thats why i think it would be BAD to have it in our room. we once had a tv in our room. and EVERY NIGHT thats all we did before bed was watch TV. I really dont like that
The link to the original article is expired (I found the summary on my computer - it was research I did for my nursing class on counselling - we did a section of the course on sexual counselling/sex education).
It was an italian study done (in 2005) by a psychologist (Serenella Salomoni) who studies sexual behaviour. It was a small study of 523 couples, and found that the average frequency of sexual intercourse among couples without a TV in the bedroom was 8 times per month, in couples with a TV in the bedroom it was 4 times per month (so the TV-less couples had twice as much sex).
In couples over 50, the average frequency of sexual intercourse was 7 times per month without a TV, and 1.5 times per month is they have a TV in the bedroom, so in those cases the frequency of sex was reduced by 3/4 if they had a TV in the bedroom!
@osakagrl: I totally understand! It kills the mood if you think of the bedroom as just another place to watch TV. If you guys get one maybe make an agreement to not watch it before bed or something? My FI was very adament that if we had a TV in the bedroom we'd only actually watch it on rare occasions! It's worked out well for us so far and It's kind of fun to watch the odd movie while snuggling in bed.
Oh and PS having a TV in our room definitely doesn't interfere with our sex life or communication. Both of those are outstanding ;)
We have one, when I'm trying to sleep and it's too quiet it actually gets my mind working and then I can't sleep for hours. When I have the TV on, it kind of quiets the noise in my head and I fall asleep much faster.
@Emshaw, the problem is I would have a hard time keeping to that too! hahaha
I think that its just too much of a temptation for us = = ;;; im really thinking of putting my foot down with him and saying no to the bedroom.
We don't have a TV in our bedroom, mostly because we don't have any place to put one. But that aside, I only want to watch TV while laying in bed when I'm sick, otherwise I'm perfectly content to sit on the couch. I will say that it would be nice to have another TV for when I want to watch a show and FI is taking up the other TV with the XBOX :P
We don't have a TV in the bedroom, but we fall asleep to Netflix on my MacBook every night. So I think that counts..haha
No tv in our bedroom but I would love to have one to pop in when I'm sick and don't want to leave bed! That's the only time I ever want one in our room!
No no no no no no no. No way. No siree. TVs belong in the living room, den, or kitchen. I can't stand that high pitched noise they make when they're turned on (am I the only one who hears that?), and it gives me really weird vibes to even see one in a bedroom. I dunno what it is. I feel like it's this soulless black box staring at me as I sleep. O.O Not to mention the whole messing-with-intimacy thing.
We have no TV anywhere!
Which is relevant because I do actually watch stuff from time to time, including TV shows, but I do it on my laptop. If you have a laptop, see if you can make a compromise by suggesting you use that to watch things in bed on rare occasions.
My option of "Yes we have one but haen't used it since we moved in" wasn't there=(
We have a TV in the living room (our new 52" in Xmas gift to ourselves!) & bedroom (the older 26" from my apt). Fi just commented 2 nights ago that in the 2 months since we moved in (whcih is when we got the new TV) we haven't so much as turned the bedroom one on!
We only have one tv in our house and that was fiances idea and Im perfectly happy the way it is. We end up spending more time together instead of getting up and go watching something else besides football in the other room. I think a TV in the bedroom is very impersonable. We don't do a whole lot of other things besides sleep and do the deed in our bedroom but still don't want a tv interupting any of that.
We do not have a TV in the bedroom and we don't want one. I have heard keep the bedroom for two things. Sleep and Love making. If you put a tv in there it takes away from the time you have together. We just got a big comfy couch in our family room so we could cuddle there if we want to watch tv before bed. It works!
We have a TV in our bedroom and always have. Right now the only thing that messes with our intimacy is our conflicting schedules. I work 1st shift and he works 2nd so he is not home when I am. Sometimes we have to put the TV to cancel out the noise (if you know what I mean) since his father lives with us and his bedroom is two doors down.
@lillindy - I am like you and have been that way for years. If the TV is off and I am wide awake, my brain is firing left and right. With the TV on, it helps to put me to sleep especially when the hubs is not home.
EDIT: I probably should mention when we put the tv on to cancel out the noise, we put on one of the R&B or Jazz cable music stations where music is constantly playing. We don't put on a show or anything.
We have one in our bedroom but we don't use it very much. Some Saturday mornings I'll turn it on and catch up on my PVRed shows while FI is on the computer or somewhere. But it's rarley on at night.
I actually didn't realize so many people don't have a TV in their bedroom. I always have (since I was a teenager) and my guy had one already when I moved in. We use it about 3 days a week before bed to watch a tv show or the news. And it's great if one of us is sick so we can lay in bed and watch tv. About 1-2 times a week we take turns giving back massages while watching a favorite tv show...We like having the tv in the bedroom.
I like to implement feng shui whenever I can and it's a big no no to have a TV in the bedroom. The bedroom should be a place to relax, read, have sex, and sleep according to feng shui. So no TV in my bedroom now. However, I have to confess that I use my laptop on my bed too much and should stop.
Yes, but it's movies only and we've only watched one since we've lived there for 7 months.
I would never want "regular" cable tv or anything on in there. I agree it's not healthy, the bedroom is for sleep and love making :)
yep we do!! we watch t.v. in bed before going to sleep and i watch the news in the morning getting ready for work.
hmm, i don't get the best sleep though :( Perhaps i should reconsider this.
We have a TV in our bedroom. My hubby watches it for about 10-15 minutes prior to bed...it helps him wind down and get sleepy. It doesn't really bother me at all, so I'm no opposed to it. Plus, sometimes I do want to stay up just a tad later than him to watch something. It's rare that we have it on for any other reason than right before bed though.
Nope and we never will.
I think the bedroom is not a place for a TV the bedroom is for sleeping and intimacy. When you own your own place I don't understand the need for it as you can go to bed after you are done watching TV/movies etc.
Yes - and we LOVE it! We now have a nightly routine of watching one of our favorite tv shows right before bed! He usually watches it a little longer than me, and it's harder for me to get to sleep while it's on, but I'm honestly getting used to it and it doesn't bother me too much any more.
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