Post # 1
This may get emotions and i don’t want to upset anyone!
Their is a show that Mr. M has just brought and wants me to watch with him, Which i was happy about until i found out what the show was.
I don’t want to offend anyone that watches or likes the show and i will explain my reasoning behind not liking it.
The show is: Spartacus: Blood and Sand. The reason i hate it?
“The program is preceded by a very specific warning, that it purports to portray a “historical portrayal of ancient Roman society that contains graphic violence and adult content”. ‘Incidental’ nudity and scenes of a sexual or of a violent nature are present throughout.”
Apparently they are quite happy to show the ‘slaves’ being sexually abused by their ‘masters’ because it is historically accurate.
My problem? I was abused and raped when i was younger and i cannot describe how i feel to see it on TV i get physically ill and sometimes just start crying, I’ll go into huge rants about humanity and why it’s legal to show stuff like that on TV – Not matter the rating.
Now Fiance doesn’t understand, He thinks that because most of them won’t fight back i’ll be okay.
Anyone else have issues with a TV show or Movie Fiance loves?
Post # 3
I’m the same way about rape scenes…and I also hate needles. So although I don’t really care what Fiance watches, I prefer not to watch scenes with rapes or needles (like shooting up or getting injections of any sort) so if one comes on that I can’t handle I leave the room or close my eyes and ears and he knows to tell me when it’s over. If it really bothers you ask him to DVR it and watch it when he’s alone – I’m sure he will respect that especially if he knows your past.
Post # 4
Fiance and I are both very careful about the things we watch. We’ve both seen that show and both agree that it’s really too bad they have to be “that accurate” about those things, considering the fighting scenes are pretty cool.
Really, we watch very little tv and have both agreed to never have cable in our home. There’s just too much these days that is overly sexual and decietful and neither one of us want to be feeding any of those kinds of thoughts towards or about each other or our marriage.
Hopefully through some geniune communication your Fiance and see your heart on it and take that into high consideration when he’s choosing what he views.
Post # 5
I don’t have a problem with him watching anything, as long as he warns me that he’s going to be watching it. My stomach churns when I see animated blood (think Happy Tree Friends, Family Guy sometimes, some anime). I’m fine with “real” blood, but cartoon blood – no way!
I realise that this isn’t on the same level as your issue. Could you explain to him that it brings up too many emotions for you to actually enjoy the film? Does he know the real reason why you get upset?
Post # 6
@Everdeen: I’m the same way with animated blood. Dunno why, but it makes me flinch more :/
I’m sorry to hear that… tv shows are too graphic these days, and its terrible they put something like that in there. Husband, I, and some friends used to watch horror movies all the time. One day we rented ‘Last House on the Left’. Do not watch it. We had no idea there would be a (long!) scene where a girl gets raped. It was absolutely terrible. My best friend and I were crying, and husband and his friend were shocked. We were all completely disgusted, and felt terrible… we had never thought the ‘R’ rating was for that! There was no nudity, but you could hear it and it still makes me sick to my stomache to think about it..
As for shows, we generally have the same tastes. House, Psych, comedies and the occasional oldie movie does it for us.
Post # 7
i acrtually like the spatacus series and was sad when it was over but then again Fiance and i watch porn together too…
Post # 8
@Future Mrs. Miller: It’s such a weird coincidence you posted this. I just got really upset that Darling Husband was watching this today and getting physically excited by the very scenes you described (not the rape ones, but where the slave “enjoys” it) . This show’s pretty much the same as porn to me which I’m not ok with. I know he wasn’t seeking that out or hiding it but the end result’s the same. I don’t care if people tell me that it’s irrational or ridiculous. I’m fine with some nudity and sex in movies but stuff that’s this graphic and gratituous is outside my comfort zone.
Post # 9
Oh my goodness – I’m so sorry that happened to you, and that your Fiance is behaving so insensitively. There’s really no excuse for him not respecting your feelings on the matter – and I say that as someone who likes that particular show. If you don’t mind my asking, does he know about everything you’ve written about here?
Post # 10
@SnowPeony: I’ve seen Last House on the Left, I went out of the room and got Fiance to get me when it was over. I enjoyed watching those men die. I cant believe they would allow something like that!
@cr6zy: I’m fine with sex scenes in general but only when they both want it
@meliss: I totally agree, and i think your quite rational 🙂
@Beluga: I just explained to him how i felt, In a more direct way instead of just whining at him in general, so we’ve sorted it all out.
Post # 11
We just talked about it and he’s going to watch it when i’m not home, he wasn’t aware that it upset me so much, because i didn’t explain it to him properly. (I go right to my rants and get defensive :P) He wouldn’t ever make me watch stuff like that.
He brought it off Ebay because a friend recommended it to him and he knew their was sex in it but didn’t know that it would be with the slaves- He told me he’d send it back if i wanted him to because he doesn’t want me to be unhappy or uncomfortable.