(Closed) Twas the night before the wedding…

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
Member
4356 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If neither of you is superstitious or cares about seeing eachother the morning of then sleep in the same bed! Who cares. If it’s not a tradition either of you hold close to your hearts, don’t worry. It’s not a rule 🙂

Post # 4
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10289 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

We slept together the night before and it was one of the best wedding decisions that we made. Logistically it made the most sense since we were going to be staying at our venue regardless (hotel wedding) but mostly, we just wanted to. We’d lived together for 6 years prior to getting married so why would we opt to sleep apart when we’ve slept in the same bed for so long? To be completely honest, waking up with my soon to be husband on our wedding day was one of my fondest memories. We had the opportunity to really reflect on the day ahead before all of the craziness started. If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn’t change a thing. 

Post # 5
Hostess
18623 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Who cares if you sleep together the night before?  We slept in the same bed and hung out together throughout the day before the wedding.  I don’t think being apart makes the wedding night more special if you live together already.

Post # 7
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1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I get what your FI is saying…my parents, even though they lived together for years before their wedding, slept apart for a few days before the wedding and said it was nice, built some anticipation and giddiness….FI and I have been living together for years and for that very reason I don’t want to spend the night before the wedding with him, I want it to feel different from a normal day hehe (no superstition, though, I just think it will be nice to not see him until the big moment, I love me some juicy nervous tension!). Otherwise it’s like waking up Xmas morning like you said…but the presents are in the bed, there’s none of that excitement of running downstairs and seeing them so beautifully waiting below the tree 🙂 If it’s what he wants, I’d definitely entertain the idea if you can make the logistics work…it’s not worth breaking your back over if it logistically makes no sense and you’re not superstitious

Post # 9
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1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Firinne:  I’m excited to be a nervous wreck, personally, lol, I think it’s part of the fun to feel like you’re going to vomit two seconds before…but I’m weird haha. I do a lot of theater and every time feel nauseous and nervous before stepping out onstage and then step out and it goes away and a calm comes over me and I feel like the awesome calm wouldn’t feel as good if it didn’t have the awful nerves before. I’m so excited to feel like crap all morning and see him down the aisle and have that go away and know that he can do that for me 😛

Post # 10
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3081 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I definitely see it both ways! FI and I have lived together for three years and we sleep so well together. And I love the idea of waking up with him, sharing a moment like 

@UpstateCait talks about. But this was one of the things he went traditional on me for (as well as no first look), and that’s ok too. It will be super exciting to see him as I walk down the aisle.   

OP, sounds like your FI is doing something similar. 

Just try to look at it in a positive light – how exciting will it be to see him for the first time!

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