Post # 1
My Fiancé and I both want to sleep in the same bed the night before the wedding because we both sleep better when were together and the logistics for sleeping in separate houses is a little tough. We are getting married four hours from our home where my family lives. Usually when we visit we stay at my Dad’s, but if we have to stay in separate houses then I have no clue where he is going to stay. He could stay at my Mom’s but she doesn’t have an extra bed and who wants to sleep on a couch the night before your wedding? He could stay at my aunt and uncles but it might be a little awkward because he doesn’t really know them that well. So I feel like we should either both stay at my Dad’s or maybe get separate hotel rooms. I like the idea of having separate hotel rooms but it may not be in the budget unless the hotel would be kind enough to gift it to us because we are having so many guests stay there.
Am I over thinking this? Is it really such a big deal to sleep together the night before? I feel like if I wake up next to him the day of my nerves will not be as bad. I know people say it will make the wedding night more special, but I don’t know if it will really matter that much.
Please share your thoughts and what you plan to do or what you did.
Post # 3
If neither of you is superstitious or cares about seeing eachother the morning of then sleep in the same bed! Who cares. If it’s not a tradition either of you hold close to your hearts, don’t worry. It’s not a rule 🙂
Post # 4
We slept together the night before and it was one of the best wedding decisions that we made. Logistically it made the most sense since we were going to be staying at our venue regardless (hotel wedding) but mostly, we just wanted to. We’d lived together for 6 years prior to getting married so why would we opt to sleep apart when we’ve slept in the same bed for so long? To be completely honest, waking up with my soon to be husband on our wedding day was one of my fondest memories. We had the opportunity to really reflect on the day ahead before all of the craziness started. If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn’t change a thing.
Post # 5
Who cares if you sleep together the night before? We slept in the same bed and hung out together throughout the day before the wedding. I don’t think being apart makes the wedding night more special if you live together already.
Post # 6
Just talked to my Fiance’ and he told me he thinks it would be nice to stay apart the night before. I guess the thought of not seeing him until I am walking down the isle scares me. I am going to be so excited and I will want to share that excitement with him. It’s like waking up christmas morning and walking out to see there are no presents under the tree. Waking up without him next to me will be very surreal I think!
Post # 7
I get what your FI is saying…my parents, even though they lived together for years before their wedding, slept apart for a few days before the wedding and said it was nice, built some anticipation and giddiness….FI and I have been living together for years and for that very reason I don’t want to spend the night before the wedding with him, I want it to feel different from a normal day hehe (no superstition, though, I just think it will be nice to not see him until the big moment, I love me some juicy nervous tension!). Otherwise it’s like waking up Xmas morning like you said…but the presents are in the bed, there’s none of that excitement of running downstairs and seeing them so beautifully waiting below the tree 🙂 If it’s what he wants, I’d definitely entertain the idea if you can make the logistics work…it’s not worth breaking your back over if it logistically makes no sense and you’re not superstitious
Post # 8
@BookishBelle: it’s not at all about the superstition. I am just afraid I am going to be a nervous wreck if I can’t see him before. But it might be worth it. 🙂
Post # 9
@Firinne: I’m excited to be a nervous wreck, personally, lol, I think it’s part of the fun to feel like you’re going to vomit two seconds before…but I’m weird haha. I do a lot of theater and every time feel nauseous and nervous before stepping out onstage and then step out and it goes away and a calm comes over me and I feel like the awesome calm wouldn’t feel as good if it didn’t have the awful nerves before. I’m so excited to feel like crap all morning and see him down the aisle and have that go away and know that he can do that for me 😛
Post # 10
I definitely see it both ways! FI and I have lived together for three years and we sleep so well together. And I love the idea of waking up with him, sharing a moment like
@UpstateCait talks about. But this was one of the things he went traditional on me for (as well as no first look), and that’s ok too. It will be super exciting to see him as I walk down the aisle.
OP, sounds like your FI is doing something similar.
Just try to look at it in a positive light – how exciting will it be to see him for the first time!