(Closed) Two Bachelor Parties With One RIGHT Before The Wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Should I Say Something About It.... or Leave This One Alone?
    Say Something-- If It Bothers You, It Bother's You! : (36 votes)
    75 %
    Leave It-- It Really Is Not THAT Big Of A Deal-- But Your Big Girl Panties On And Chill! : (10 votes)
    21 %
    Other- Please Explain : (0 votes)
    Just Go Get Some Coffee And Shut Up! : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    989 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Wouldn’t work for me.  They can have as many boys nights before the wedding weekend as they like (and after, for that matter), just not the weekend of the wedding.  Besides, I’m really looking forward to going out with everyone and having a few drinks after the Rehearsal Dinner and I would hate to have that ruined by an impromptu bachelor party, especially if he’s already had one.

    Gotta get your Fiance on board with you though.

    Post # 4
    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Ok… you’re overreacting and you need to just chill the F out before you ruin everyone’s mood.  Seriously, there’s nothing wrong with him wanting to see his guy pals. It’s been nonstop wedding-wedding-wedding for months, and he’s been dragged to see and do all sorts of “girly” things (fill up the registry, have photos taken, go look at flowers…. stuff like that). Let him have a guy’s night with his out-of-town guy pals. Maybe you and the girls should go have drinks too instead of just “going back to the hotel and calling it a night.”

    Post # 5
    4046 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think you should go out ith the girls. Most likely you will need to be up earlier in the morning to get ready; whereas the guys can stay out a bit more. It’s a good chance to hang out with the girls and maybe you can all go out for coffee and dessert. I would definitely leave it!

    Post # 7
    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’d say something. 1. He’s kind of being a bad host by going off with his boys. He should be attempting to say hi to/hang out with all the people who flew in to celebrate with him. 2. No one looks cute hungover.

    I’m not saying don’t go out for a few drinks with everybody but one bachelor party is plenty.

    Post # 8
    151 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @fishbone:  I wouldn’t go as far as that, but fishbone does have a point here. Unless you’ve got a groundbreakingly progressive gender-equality wedding, then he’s likely been occupying his time with girly thing after girly thing. A 2nd night out with the boys, by comparison, is small potatoes to what you’ll probably get as a bride. I’d let him have it.

    That said, if you think he’s going to booze it up and wake up hungover, then you clearly have a valid cause for concern.


    Post # 9
    887 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    My Darling Husband went out with all the guys the night before our wedding and it sucked. I wish I had stood up for myself and said I was not okay with it! The groomsmen ended up being hung over and miserable through pictures and stuff. And honestly Darling Husband wasn’t doing so hot either. Plus, it would have been much better to get to spend time all together the night before the wedding since really they were mutual friends and I was full of nerves finishing up last minute things! To each her own though– but it is fine (and you’re not overreacting) if it does bother you and you should speak up 🙂

    Post # 10
    1755 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    He had a bachelor party already and had fun, you were on board.  A second is really a bit pointless and the night bere the wedding is asking for a hangover in the morning and problems.  If he wanted to have dinner with them or go golfing or gaming instead though, I’d say support it.

    Post # 12
    16216 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I found out after our wedding was over that my father-in-law, along with our best man, took my husband golfing the morning of the wedding. I didn’t really have a problem with it when I found out. But I would have had a problem with him going out and drinking the night before the wedding. So I guess it depends whether it’s going to just be a few drinks, or more?

    Post # 15
    1390 posts
    Bumble bee

    Fiance and I rarely do anything apart. My shower was this weekend and as I was getting ready he asked me,  “so…what do I do while you’re there?” I told him to just hang out with the dogs and I’d text him when he could come. He started texting 1 1/2 hours later, he was so bored.

    So, needless to say, we’re not doing any separate parties at all. For our bachelor/bachlorette parties we’re doing a joint bar night. Maybe this could work for you guys the night before the wedding? We sent out a FB invite to our friends and asked them to meet us at a specific bar from 7pm onward. Come have a drink, relax, etc. It’s low key and didn’t require a lot of planning but it’s concrete enough that you don’t have to worry about trying to figure out where to go after the rehearsal. Everyone knows the plan. You’ll also be together which is great but that doesn’t mean you can’t socialize with your friends while he socializes with his. AND you can keep an eye on any potentially unruly groomsmen because what PP said is true. No one looks good hungover.

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