Post # 1
I just wondered if anyone has ever done this. FI’s family and my family live about 80 miles apart. Now we are moving to a small town that is literally smack dab in the middle of the two – but I don’t live there yet. FI is there starting his job and getting our living arrangements all set up and I am staying with my parents because they live close to my internship, but once I graduate in May, I will be moving right out there.
We will likely be living in an apartment, and even though our guest list will be fairly small, it will mostly likely still be very cramped in that kind of setting.
FI suggested two small bridal showers – one where I am for my family’s side, and one out where his family lives for their side. That way no one side has to do a lot of traveling. His mother and my mother are both fine with this, but I just wanted some opinions from all of you, as well.
Since we are getting married in August, both parties will be during summer, so they will probably be in each of our parents’ backyards, cookout style. Thoughts?
Post # 3
@PonytailKim: I’m having two showers – one in the city, hosted by my bridal party, for friends and one closer to my parents’ house, hosted by my mother, for family members. It’s the easiest way for everyone to be able to attend without having to travel too much!
Post # 4
Sounds like the perfect situation for both families.
Post # 5
I have to do two as well. I am not relishing the idea of registering and receiving gifts at two parties :l but my Mother and FMIL are asking for this. Gah.
Your idea sounds wonderful – casual is the way to go for these things!
Post # 6
I have heard of multiple showers. Sometimes certain groups of people want to have a their own little celebration with a bride (co workers, or old college friends) with out family.
Post # 7
I’m having two showers as well…one where I currently live, and one in my hometown.
Post # 8
We were exactly the same as you. Each hometown about 100 miles apart, and we were (still are) in the middle living in a very small town. DH’s family held one for his side of fam and his girl friends/friend’s wives, my sisters & mom held one for my side of fam and my friends. It worked out great and most appreciated not having to make such a drive to attend the shower.
Post # 9
Wow I never know this was so common! Thanks for the help, everyone! I think this is the best way to go.
Post # 10
@PonytailKim: my fiance’s family is throwing a couple’s shower for us this weekend and then my family is throwing a more traditional, female only shower in May. Most of my friends ended up having 2 showers so you’re not alone!
Post # 11
Where I live it’s not uncommon to have even 4 or 5 showers. Work shower, church shower, her family, his family, and any other social group you might be part of.
Post # 12
Wow, thanks everybody!! I’m actually more excited now. 🙂
Post # 13
I’m having three, but not by my choice. We’ll be having one in the city we live in in North Dakota, one in the city where his family lives in in California, and one in the city my family lives in in Alberta.
Post # 14
Yeah…I had FOUR baby showers…INSANITY…so, 2 wedding showers is A-OK!
Post # 15
@PonytailKim: I will be having FOUR bridal showers. So yeah, you’re fine with 2. 🙂
Post # 16
As long as you have people to host it I don’t really see the problem. This isn’t uncommon for people that have family and/or friends in many different places. We had two engagement parties, one where I lived and one where my husband is originally from.