Two Broken Traditions??? Am I doing it wrong???

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
6969 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

1. we both take our rings off when we get home. I don’t see the point in additional wear and tear, and frankly I just don’t like wearing jewelry around the house!

2. traditionally the band goes closest to your heart, but it’s your ring. Wear it however you like!

Post # 4
774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Jazmynju:  I don’t think there’s anything wrong with taking your rings off when you get home. I tend to keep my e-ring on more than I should. Just recently I scratched my face in my sleep with it. Or I’ll forget I have it on and knead dough or something. I do take mine off in the shower though because I ‘m worried it will fall off and go down the drain. I can’t see FI being willing to replace it! 


I’m not married yet, but I do plan to wear my band on the bottom of the stack. I don’t think its wrong to do it differently, though. Your friend is overreacting to your jewelry habits. 

Post # 5
970 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@Jazmynju:  I take my rings off to sleep, shower, work out, wash dishes, usually cook (because I wash my hands a lot)…..but I wear it the rest of the time. Traditionally, the wedding ring goes closest to the heart, on first then engagement ring, but I will be getting one ring on each side so it won’t matter which is which (one will be wedding band and the other is my birthday, christmas, and anniversary gift this year).

Post # 6
537 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2000

My husband and I both take our rings off overnight, and we’ve both been known to forget to put it on before we leave the house.  Your friend is making a mountain out of a mole hill.

Post # 7
2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

1. Nothing wrong with this.

2. I have to admit to always thinking it’s strange when I see this. I also often assume that the wearer of the backwards rings is ignorant of the traditional placement.

Post # 8
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2006

I don’t have an engagement ring at this moment, we had one in the past.. When I did, I took both rings off at bedtime, to shower, to do dishes, and sometimes just when at home.. It is so not telling your marriage it is trouble if you take them off at home. That is a silly thing to say! 


And, I have seen many of my friends wear the engagement ring first, than the wedding band on top.. I love the look. 

Post # 9
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

1. I take my rings off when I shower, put on lotion, and wash dishes. I don’t want my ring to get dirtier than necessary because having it cleaned at the jewelry store all the time is not good for the ring.

2. My band is first on my finger then my e-ring. I see women with the opposite and figure they just don’t the tradition. It’s their hands and their rings, so I don’t correct them.

Post # 10
6048 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

1. DH takes his ring off when he gets home, puts it on his chair arm and usually knocks it on the floor.  I usually then find the cat playing with it  on the floor.  I actually wear the ring DH got me last Christmas, it’s flatter, and doesn’t get caught on everything like my wedding set does.  I wear it on special occasions. 

2. I wear the e ring first, since DH gave me that fi rst then the wedding band. I think since he put the ering on first then he put my band on, I wear it the way he put them on my finger. 😀 

Post # 11
7289 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@Jazmynju:  You need to tell your friend that a marriage is more than a ring. Both of us never wear rings and H doesn’t even have one. We have a pretty strong marriage that has survived lots of hardships such as serious illness. Your friend sounds immature and niave.

Also you can wear your ring anyway you like.

Post # 12
1261 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I don’t think there are any “rules” when it comes to your wedding rings.  I wear my wedding band 24/7, but not my e-ring.  Do what YOU want.

Post # 13
2131 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Lol your friend is being dramatic. My commitment doesn’t depend on my ring and I am sure yours doesn’t either. Do WHATEVER you’re comfortable with!

Post # 14
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I take it off to shower, but rarely otherwise unless I’m doing something messy.

I will wear the e-ring first (closer to me). It’s tradition where my FIs family is from, and I like it better

Post # 15
7039 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Jazmynju:  I often take my rings off at home, shower, exercise etc. Your friend is being ridiculous. I always figure the ring(s) are for wearing in public. You can do what you want in the comfort of your home. Just like you can take off your bra/shoes/anything else if it’s more comfortable, you can take off your ring(s) too. (And it’s none of your friend’s business).

e-ring on top is traditional. But if you want to do it the other way, good for you, it’s your choice.

Post # 16
3239 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

It sounds like your friend is a member of the Ring Police. LOTS of people take their rings off for all sorts of things; when and where you wear your rings is entirely up to you. You would even be married if you didn’t wear a ring at all! *gasp*

As for which ring to wear first, in the US it is traditional to wear the wedding band first. I admit that it looks “off” to my eye to wear the ER first, but I’m not the one looking at your rings. Wear them the way you wish. 

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