(Closed) Two ceremonies?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
12903 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you need to be clear that you will already be married at the time of the handfasting ceremony.  There are a bunch of threads talking about already being married but still having a ceremony, and there are some really mixed responses. 

As for wording, be specific.  “Bride and Groom invite you to witness their bond with a handfasting ceremony at (date/time/place).  Reception to follow immediately.” or something like that. 

If I’m understanding the handfasting ceremony correctly, it’s not a religious thing at all, so I don’t think you’d need an officiant for it.  Plus, you’d already be legally married by the officiant at your beach wedding, so the point is null unless there is a religious aspect in it.

Post # 5
6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

With Destination Wedding, people that have AHR they are typically celebration parites, not full on recpetions as that is the event that takes place right after the ceremony.  This way anyone can be invited to an AHR, not just wedding guests as it’s a party.


Is the handfasting because you want to do one and don’t want ribbons flying in the wind?  Or do you think it will be meaning ful to the guests?  If it’s just purely a show, then I’m sure anyone can do a reading and wrap the ribbons around you.  Some use it in their legal ceremony as well, but since you’ll be married already, it seems to fall under the “show the guests?”



Post # 7
6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I forgot – Congratulations on the engagement!


Reception is meant to recieve your guests – thank them for coming to the wedding.  So AHR is kind of a misnomer even though we use the term often.

There’s the etiquette rule that guests invited to the wedding are the only people you can invite to wedding related events (reception, bach parties, enagement parties, showers).  It’s etiquette, not semantics.

So AHR doesn’t fall under this category as anyone can be invited to an AHR, even people not invited to the wedding.  You can repeat vows, do a speech, handfasting or nothing at all. 


We’re not even sure many of the guests would understand it, so we figure if we do it in front of them we’d have to explain it in detail.

You could put info on each table regarding the handfasting meaning or if somone runs the handfasting they can say what the meaning is.  Since it’s not legal, I’d think anyone can run it.

Post # 8
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’ve known people who do full on receptions after a dw. I think following what Abbie said with the wording.

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