Post # 1
Heres something I need some outside perspective on. Im going over our reception timeline, and thinking about two bride/groom couple dances.
Here is why:
our wedding is a destination, and we are not having a bridal party at all. We have only 16 guests and we have our venue rented for four hours for the whole event.
we have a 20 minute ceremony, 1 hour for photography with appetizers, a plated dinner, cake cutting, first dance and non-verbal toast, and sparkler exit all to fit into 4 hours. we are not having games, tosses, upbeat dancing, a DJ or band, or father/daughter or mother/son dances (there isnt really enough time for all of that!). Our music will be softly playing from an ipod over the reception with specific songs being selected by our coordinator for first dance, cake cutting, etc.
the general flow would look like this:
then seat and have dinner
then do cake cutting/non-verbal toast
cake is served for dessert
and then do a final dance
and then a sparkler exit.
here is the big question: in this case, is it weird to do TWO B/G dances? i WOULD have made the final dance a dance for ALL couples except that there was family drama with the destination and so, some guests will attend without their husbands and so i dont want them to think it is a jab at them to have a couples dance for everybody (and they dont have their DHs). so if it is a dance for B/G only, it will be more something they watch, like the first dance would be.
i dunno, weird?
Post # 3
I think most weddings have more than one dance, but I’m looking at it as it will give some time for my new husband and I to reconnect amongst the chaos.
If you want a second couples dance go for it!
Post # 4
@hkinsley: I’m with u on that! Thanks for the input!
Any more perspectives?
Post # 5
Just you guys are dancing at the beginning and the end?
Post # 6
@hermom: ya that would prob be how it would happen. just dont have time for a big traditional segment of dancing, and not enough guests to make it worth hiring a dj or band. unless its too weird, then we might scrap the idea of a final b/g dance.
Post # 7
@BeeG35: It’s not weird or rude or anything like that, but it just strikes me as a tad pointless. I don’t see the purpose or added value of the last dance being just the bride and groom. Why exclude anyone from the last dance? If others want to dance, I’d let them dance too. It’s your wedding though, so you should do what makes you happy.
Post # 8
I certainly wouldn’t be weirded out or offended or anything, but I guess I kind of don’t get the point? I mean when you’re already so strapped for time, I wouldn’t be throwing in unnecessary activities. Unless you guys are stellar dancers or are learning ballroom for the wedding, or somthing like that. I’d just socialize with guests while eating cake and then have someone annouce the exit and leave. You don’t need a “last dance”. I honestly don’t even remember what the DJ played for our last dance!
Post # 9
I find it weird to have two bride and groom only dances at a wedding. But that’s just my opinion.
Post # 10
It’s your wedding if that’s what you want then you should do it. However, you should make both dances no more than 3 minutes – other than that people will get bored. You can also dance the last song for the first minute by yourself and then maybe have the coordinator invite anyone who would like to join to the dance floor.
My husband and I did two dances, but we had a full reception with dancing. We did the traditional slow dance when we did our entrance and then did a salsa dance to get the dance party started!
Post # 11
I’d just do the last dance as your first dance. People don’t need to watch you dance 2 x that is awkward.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
My husband and I danced a last-dance together with no one in the room but the DJ and photographer, while everyone was outside getting their bubbles ready (or in your case, sparklers). It was probably my favorite moment of the wedding!