Post # 1
So I just got my sample of the invites I love in the mail, and I LOVE IT. This is it: http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=24831148&ref=sr_gallery_4&&ga_search_query=amanda+invite&ga_search_type=handmade&ga_page=&includes%5B%5D=tags&includes%5B%5D=title
We will be getting them without the purple tag cover, so they will be $545 for 100, or $5.45 an invite. While this includes the envelope & the RSVP card, its still a bit much for us.
The deal is, we will be inviting over 200 people. While I know this isn’t 200 invitations, it will probably be well over 100.
Of the 200+ people that will recieve invitations, there is a large chunk that won’t be coming. FI has tons of aunts & uncles (both his parents come from huge families) that are spread out all over the country and won’t travel to the wedding. My FI suggested sending these people a cheaper invite. It’s more gracious of a gesture than just sending an announcement, but we can concentrate the invitation budget on those that will actually join us & will see how everything ties together.
I still feel like this is a tacky thing to do, & I’m ready to look for something else – though I don’t think $5.45 an invite with envelope & RSVP is that bad! Thoughts?
Post # 3
Yeahhhh, I’d go with your gut on this one. Imagine if one of your guests found out they’d received a "second rate" invite…
Post # 4
I had a really hard time with invites, I especially had a problem with the price. I finally decided that since I knew a ton of my family was not coming, I’m just going to send announcements. They’ll be happy eitherway. To the closer family, even though I know they won’t come, I’m sending an invite. I had about 175 on my list and doing the invitations/announcements I was able to cut it to under 100 invitations that I needed.
Post # 5
We’re planning on sending announcements to extended family like cousins, but FI’s aunts & uncles alone will be 15-20 invites! His parents have a LOT of siblings!
I think I’m just going to try to find the money for it. Has anyone had luck negotiating with Etsy sellers?
Post # 6
I ran out of invites and had to go with a second batch which are close in design to the first, but are not exact. I doubt anyone will notice, I mean who goes around comparing invitations? I spent $20 for all 100+ of them, but I am doing print-your-own and got the kits from eBay.
Post # 7
I would do it – we were considering doing that originally but changed our minds because I really liked the invites we picked. I would just make sure the family you send the 2nd invites too doesnt live near or see people often that would be getting the first invite. But as long as its still an invitation you can always say you couldnt choose between them so you sent both!
Post # 8
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
We are sending out 2 sets. One that is an invite to our wedding in the Riviera Maya, the other that is an engagement annoucement/save the date for our at home party. If you like the idea then do it. 😉
Post # 9
Maybe you can go back to the etsy seller and see if she can do anything to cut down on the costs. I doubt you’ll get a discount but she might be able to change the product so it’s more in line with your budget. Personally, sending two different types of invitations seems like a lot of hassle, and doesn’t feel right.
Post # 10
We did two different invites… but then again, we had "ceremony & reception" invites for family, and then "reception only" invites for all of our friends. I doubt anyone will notice, or care, especially if these people don’t even live near each other. I mean, who brings their invitation with them to the wedding?
Post # 11
I spoke with my mom, and she thinks that we should go with the one that I love for everyone. I’m very happy about this 🙂 We do need to figure out how to shave off a little bit. Any suggestions?
Post # 12
I would send only the one invite. It’s true that people don’t usually compare and show each other invites but in the event that it did happen (and we all know anything can happen during wedding planning, lol) you don’t want people to feel they were "second choice". What about taking the design to a local printer and seeing if they can come up with something similar to the invite you have. Being local they may be more willing to come down on price than Etsy and you wouldn’t need to pay for shipping and handling/delivery. You could just pick them up.
Post # 13
I agree — go with announcements and avoid the tacky aspect. I really wish my FH’s family had been into announcements….
Post # 15
Can you DIY them? Honestly, they don’t look hard to do at all…IF you can’t do it, I’d talk to a local printer/friend and see if they can create them for you. $5.45 a piece! WOW