- 3 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
So, here’s the situation. DH and I have been together for almost 10 years. Our wedding is in September. We recently bought a home, and are now living together. I have two kids from a previous marriage (son 14, daughter 11) and he has a 16 year old from a previous relationship.
We’ve never lived together. We usually spent weekends and summer vacations together. The first few years we were dating, we decided not to introduce the kids to one another (or my kids to him, me to his son), to give them time to adjust to our new dynamic.
Fast forward — so I thought everything was going well. We worked out some stuff, compromised. So here we are all moved in and under one roof –but….
now, his son doesn’t talk to anyone in the house but his dad. doesn’t acknowledge me (or my kids) when we get home. NOT ONE WORD. I certainly feel this is disrespectful. I was taught that if someone you know walks in to the room, you acknowledge them (especially your elders!!) PERIOD. I’m not asking to bring out the welcome wagon, but a simple.. HEY would be nice. Its a bit irritating because I feel as if I’m being disrespected in my own home. and I shouldn’t feel that way.
He doesn’t talk to my kids either, and I know my kids aren’t very fond of him. Not sure if it’s because he’s a teenager and thinks the world should revolve around him? But I get the impression that he think he’s better than everybody else. As much as I want to talk to my fiance about it, it’s a really sensitive subject. which feels weird because I can to him about anything! I’m not comfortable telling other parents how I despise their kid (kidding! well.. sort of).
Did any of you BEES have to combine households? How did you do as a step-parent? Any tips? advice? suggestions?
Thanks everyone 🙂