Post # 1
I would love your help, Bees! I have two heirloom engagement rings left to me by my paternal relatives, both women I loved and cherished. Here is the pic:
The one on the left is my grandmother’s ring. The smaller engagement ring that my Pop gave her (a small diamond in a setting designed to make it look larger), nested in a baguette burst ring guard she bought later. The one on the right is very special too. It’s my great-grandfather’s wedding band, with my great Aunt’s engagement diamond on top. She didn’t have any children, and left the ring to me (among many grandnieces, we had a very special relationship). My mom just told me about my Nanny’s ring. She passed away when I was 3, but I loved her and everyone else did too. She and my grandfather had a long, passionate marriage.
I’m not as crazy about the baguette ring guard, as looks more like a cocktail ring to me. I love the idea of wearing my great-grandfather’s band (from Lithuania), but it looks pretty plain and large. Do I combine the two, to recognize both women? Do I keep my g-ma’s ring as a cocktail ring? Do I add to my aunt’s ring, maybe a halo? I’m just not sure! I would love your opinions. Thanks in advance!! My BF is happy that I come with my own engagement ring, and I want to get it “ready” for him. 🙂
Post # 3
@AudieToo: What an interesting dilemma! I love family rings, they offer such possibilities. You’ll get a lot of suggestions here!
First of all: I hate that starburst ring guard on your grandmother’s pretty little vintage ring. That thing has to go in its current state–canibalize it for other use.
There are some killer halos made with baguette diamonds, Google to see some. I think this kind of halo is incredibly handsome and fresh but yet they pay homage to vintage jewelry. If it were me, I would really consider making a halo out of the baguettes for that ring even though I think the engagement ring is charming AS IS. It looks like it’s from the 1940’s – 1950’s.
I’d leave the Great-grandpa ring as is and wear it as a right hand ring.
Or another option: Make a 3 stone diamond ring by:
- Use the two center stones of the two rings you’ve got
- Trade in the baguettes and grandma’s metal to get a third stone
- Put the 3 stones in a contemporary setting
- Have GG’s ring polished and wear as RHR. This is a hunk of gold that is worth A LOT in tolday’s world of high gold prices. OR, would you consdier giving this to your FI as his wedding band?
I like the idea of 3 stone rings especially when made with heirloom stones, it brings additional meaning to: Yesterday, Today, and Tomorrow that the 3 stone rings represent.
Let us know what you decide!
Post # 4
I don’t know. Personally I feel odd about changing or combining family heirlooms left to me. Just because eventually I would like to pass on things to younger family members. But that just me personally. I also have ring that is not to my taste that I put on my necklace that I got for my sixteen birthday.
However do what best for you, and if other family members won’t freakout then go for combining them.
Post # 5
@FauxPas2012: I second the idea of leaving grandpa’s ring as is.
Remove the starburst and either put a halo on it or a 3 stone ring.
Post # 6
@AudieToo: Could you post a pic of your grandmother’s ring without the guards? I have a feeling it is stunning as is!
I also like PP’s idea of turning the stones in the ring guard into a halo of sorts, maybe to go with the diamond on your great aunt’s ring?
Post # 7
Thanks so much for the feedback, everyone. You’ve really helped keep things in perspective. As a reference, I don’t care much about the size of the ring, but do care about the sentiment behind them.
@FauxPas2012 – It is from the early 1940’s…WWII time. The ring guard was bought in the 1950’s. It fits me perfectly too! Here is a photo of the two separated:
SSorry for the nails, it’s time for a manicure! 🙂
Post # 8
I would use your grandmothers ring without the guard and make the guard into a wedding band with bagettes all around 🙂
Post # 9
@GelaMac: That’s a very cool idea..I hadn’t thought of that!!
Post # 10
I second @GelaMac:. I love the way the e-ring looks without the wrap!
Post # 11
@GelaMac: THIS! I was thinking something similar!
@AudieToo: Your grandmother’s e-ring setting is so beautiful!
ETA: Because of the length of the baguettes, you may only be able to use three across the top of the ring and the rest of the ring may need to be metal to accommodate the curve of your finger, so perhaps you can end up with multiple rows of baguettes in the wedding band or two bands, one on each side of the e-ring. You may even have some baguettes remaining to use for another purpose!
Post # 12
The ring without the guard is perfect. SO beautiful and dainty. I’m not sure what to do with the ring guard — PPs have some good suggestions — but just weighing in to say YES YES YES to your grandmother’s ring as is.
Post # 13
Thank you all so much for taking the time to weigh in! I really appreciate it. You helped me appreciate the simply beauty that is my grandmother’s engagement ring, and I now plan to use it as is. It’s a great match for me, as I like simple, small jewelry and strong family history. It really is perfect by itself. After we get engaged, I will look into having the ring guard made into a band, or BF and I will pick out bands together.
You all are wonderful! Thank you for your feedback. 🙂 I know some folks want a really big rock, but for me it’s more important to honor our love and family.
Post # 14
@AudieToo: Oh I’m so glad. The original ring is just stunning. And the fact that it fits you…meant to be!
Post # 15
@GelaMac: I really love this idea too!
Post # 16
I say, keep the centerstones in both rings to be remounted as you choose so that you will have something to keep from both rings. Perhaps use one in your engagement ring and the other in something else, such as a pendant or RHR (or alternate e-ring :p)? Sell the gold and baguettes to use the money towards your new mountings (could also use some of the baguettes as accent stones in your e-ring if you like the look).
I agree with pp, the cost of gold is pretty high these days and you’ll likely get a fairly decent amount for the thick band and guards with the baguettes added as a bonus.
Edit: Just read the OP completely and saw that the thicker band and diamond are from more than one person. In this case, you could possibly use the band for your FI’s wedding band if you would rather not sell it?