Two matrons of honor… on accident?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper

If your friend is married by the time of your wedding it’s not by accident, rather she’s become  a matron of honor by definition. But really, IMO it doesn’t matter what you call them.  Personally, I think you ought to call them all bridesmaids or co-maid/matrons of honor and honor them each in  different ways.  One can help with the veil, one can stand next to you etc. 

Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I agree with above poster. Doesn’t matter what you call them, a MOH is a MOH. Same thing happened to me. I originally had a Matron of Honor and a Maid of Honor. Maid of Honor just got married, so now I have two Matrons. Doesn’t change anything, and I still love having both of them! Maid/Matron was less active than other Matron because of her own wedding, but show her 110% support and keep her wine glass full, and she’ll come back with the same for yours!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm

Oh just have two matrons and call your middle sister the maid of honor. Everyone likes having a title. 🙂

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

beaverbride:  I’d go for it. It’s like saying “My sisters/friend are so important to me that they are ALL of honor”

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Maid of honor and matron of honor are the same thing, the difference in title only refers to if the person is married or not.  If you were ok having a matron of honor and a maid of honor I don’t really see what the difference is now having 2 matrons of honor.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Doesn’t matter if you have 2 matrons of honor.  If you’re worried about the other sister feeling left out, then give them all the title and list them as “Matron of Honor, Matron of Honor, and Maid of Honor” .  I wouldn’t bother with the “co-” part.

Post # 9
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Worker bee

I might be having all of my sisters be MOH bc I can’t pick one over the other. I see nothing wrong with that. It is just a title.  Though, to one of my sisters, she wants to be a MOH so she can seem special, which is pathetic and selfish.  

Whatever you choose, it is your choice and your wedding!! You might have to hurt some feelings but oh well. This is your one day and people should be understanding if they are really your friend. No matter what your title is, just standing up in the wedding just be enough.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

beaverbride:  I’d forget the “Co-“.. kind of reminds me of sports co-captains in high school.

I had 2 Matrons of Honor, I didn’t think it was weird at all.  As PP have said, the only difference between Maid and Matron is marriage.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

beaverbride:  I guess I’m seeing this differently.

– Before the bee, I’d never heard of people specifically wanting a Matron of Honor and a Maid of honor. I always thought you just chose one person to be your Person of Honor and the designation of Maid/Matron was due to their present status.

– You chose to have two People of Honor and one Bridesmaid

– Nothing has changed, you still have two People of Honor and one Bridesmaid

Deal with it.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Agree with other bees, lose the “co.”  They are all special!! 😀

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

Oops, I didn’t actually mean that you should  use the term “co-matron of honor,” just that that’s what they would essentially be. Definitely lose the “co” in terms of programs and official titles. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee

call them all ladies of honor, done. the guys are best men. 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m with most other posters – it’s fine to have two Matrons of Honor. Or two matrons and a maid. I like the idea of giving them all the same status to show they’re all special. Personally I think it’s better to call them all bridesmaids, but all matrons/maids of honor is ok too.

As for her wedding date – a month before is plenty of time. She has done nothing wrong. If she was a sister it would be awkward (because many relatives would have to travel for both), but there’s nothing wrong with friends marrying a month apart. There isn’t (or at least shouldn’t) be a lot for her do, except maybe help with the bachelorette party, so I’m not sure what you mean by saying “she’s not really involved in planning”.

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