Post # 1
FI and I were set up by some mutual friends about four years ago. It so happens that this friend was the youth pastor at my church and an old friend of FI’s.
For obvious reasons, we’d love this friend to marry us, but he isn’t ordained and so can’t ‘officially’ marry us, although he can do most of the ceremony. He just can’t pronounce us husband and wife or sign any of the offical stuff. For this reason, we have another Pastor who is going to do the official stuff.
We’re having a hard time though juggling the two pastors. We don’t want either of them to feel like they’re just standing there as they’re both very important to us and the whole meaning behind the big day.
So, for you bees who had more than one officiant, how did you divide the duties?
Post # 3
Well I like asking the pastors what they would prefer. However, when I have been involved in a interfaith ceremony I have divided the ceremony. This is one way to keep all parties involved.
Pastor 1 – says intro/welcomes the family and friends.
Pastor 2- says a prayer or blessing & Declaration of Intentions.
Pastor 1 – conducts the wedding vows & ring vows.
Pastor 2 – says another prayer or blessing & Charge to Family and Friends (support couple)
Pastor 1 – Pronouncement of Marriage
Post # 4
We just had a civil ceremony, because it’s the only one that counts legally in this country… Anyways, my husband’s mom works at the city hall, so we asked her to marry us. The mayor was also a friend of the family for years, and it turns out the only way she could have done it on her own if her wasn’t in the room to take the responsibility. We had them share, so my MIL made the big speech before hand (which made everyone get teary-eyed) and the mayor said a few words, pronounced us married, and signed the paperwork.
I love my ceremony, it was very personal for a city hall wedding.