Post # 1
Has anyone had or will have two officiants for their ceremony? I know my brother did this (our minister and her minister) – and I want to plan on this as well.
Thing is – I have been a member of the Salvation Army Church since birth and my godfather is a minister in the church and I’ve ALWAYS envisioned him to be the one who’ll marry me off.
My mother, however, as much as she respects him (obviously as she made him my godfather 30 years ago) is very close with our retired minister and wanted her to marry us.
(it’s hard to explain but our churches go through many ministers as they constantly move from church to church every couple of years)…
Now, technically DH and I are already married because we needed to get married for insurance reasons a few weeks back and the retired minister (Mary) drove down with my parents to marry us (i knew that just going to a judge, she’d be very hurt)…
I will be seeing my godfather (John) in September to ask him to officiate, along with Mary, for our actual "grand wedding" next June.
AND considering that Mary actually already "truly" married us – I want John to do th actual vows with her either doing readings or just being up there with him (not sure exactly yet how we’ll split it up)…
But have any of you had TWO officiants at your wedding?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
I didn’t vote — my answer would be MOSTLY like the first option — but I think two officiants can work well if planned properly! Sister and BIL Bruschetta had a nuptial mass, with two priests co-celebrating the wedding. And I think both had an equal "part" in the wedding, even if one did more speaking, asked them to repeat the vows he said, etc.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
We had one officiant, but I’ve been to many weddings where there were two officiants! They were all Christian ceremonies where one delivered the main message, and the other had a shorter message along with a prayer.
I think it’s perfectly fine to have two ministers if they are both ok with it.
Post # 5
I did not vote either. Mr. Rain’s father is a pastor and is going to do the honors, but I think it is perfectly fine for you to have two officiants. I see it as being solely a matter of preference.
Post # 6
I think it’s perfectly fine! We are having 3 officiants…let me explain:
We are Catholic and getting married in the church that my fiance’ grew up in. Our former principal, whom he is very close to is one of our officiants, my fiance’s former classmate is also a priest, and he is our other officiant. It is tradition to ask the Pastor of the church to participate in the ceremony as well, and since we are not getting married in either of our original Priests’ church, that is how we came to have a third officiant, who happens to be close to my fiance’s family! I was worried about what people would say when we had more than 1, much less 2…but there are close relationships with all 3 people, and it just makes our ceremony mean that much more to us! It’s your day, do what makes you happy! 🙂
Post # 7
It’s totally fine if that’s what you want. My sister had a protestant ceremony in a church and had a Catholic priest do a blessing out of respect for the groom’s family. In the end, you have to do what makes you happy.
Post # 8
I voted for the two; it’s not what I’m doing but I’ve seen it done and done well. You’ll need to make sure both officiants are okay with the shared role, and there will be some work to include both sides in the proportions you feel comfortable with.
The wedding I’ve been to with two officiants had a rabbi and an ecumenical/ Christian minister. It was a long ceremony, but very nice.
Post # 9
We’re having two but it’s more like one plus a backup. My FMIL will be marrying us, but she’s asked her friend to be there for support and to take over if she starts crying or whatever. She didn’t ask if this was ok. I am hoping she makes it through. 🙂