- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I’ve been waffling between two different options for my wedding ceremony/reception, so wanted to get all your input! Both of the options cost the same when everything is said and done, so cost isn’t a factor.
Option1: traditional ceremony/reception
This option would be a pretty traditional ceremony/wedding. We have a beautiful venue in the woods/mountains. It would be about 120 people. We’d have the ceremony on site, then guests would go to a cocktail hour, then dinner/dessert/dancing.
Pros with this:
-It’s traditional and comfortable, and people are used to it!
-we have a beautiful venue with prime photo ops
-all of our family/friends would get to be a part of both the ceremony and reception
Cons with this:
-After going to a lot of weddings, they generally seem rushed. I want to have a more relaxed wedding day
-the bride and groom don’t have a lot of time to mingle with their guests
-I had to cut some folks who I would really like to be there based on number limitations of the venue and cost limitations
Option 2: small ceremony/reception, then separate larger reception/party
The second option is to have a small ceremony and reception, followed by a larger reception/party. The small event would be about 45 people, only immediate family and bridal party. I think the ceremony/reception would take place at my parents home, they have a really nice, private setting in the woods and ample space. I would envision the ceremony taking place in the yard, then the reception in the house (it’s an open floorplan home). We’d do heavy apps instead of a sit down dinner. There would be some dancing but not crazy dance party. After the reception, at about 9pm, I have in the budget for the bridal party to take a limo into the city and get bottle service at a nice bar to get a little more partying in, then stay in the city overnight.
Then the next weekend we would have a large reception/party for all of our extended family, friends, kids, etc. We found a campground that we can rent out for the weekend. It has both camp sites and cabins to accommodate everyone depending on if they are outdoorsy or not. We’d have a weekend of activities planned, with a main event taking place on Saturday afternoon/evening. They have a large covered pavilion to accommodate the party in case of rain. This would consist of having a catered bbq/pig roast, band, games, then doing the first dance and some wedding-y things to make sure it seems wedding related and not just another party. Guests could show up just for the big event, or for the whole weekend depending on their preference. The idea behind doing this would be so that we all could spend a lot more time together and everyone get to know each other and interact throughout the course of the weekend.
Pros with this:
-I get a formal ceremony, but a more casual feel
-The actual wedding will have more on an intimate feeling
-I don’t have to worry about guest list numbers for the reception weekend since the cost per person is not too high
-we’ll get to spend a lot of time with our out of town guests
-it’s a little different so I would hope that people would take it as a weekend away and really enjoy themselves, as opposed to traveling just for a couple hour event
Cons with this:
-I wouldn’t get to spend my big day with everyone
-I worry that people won’t think the separate reception weekend isn’t really a wedding, so won’t come
-I worry that it’s too much of a burden on people who may want to attend both events.
So, let me know what you think! If you were a guest, which would you prefer?