Post # 1
This is a quick question for everyone who had an Americanized Wedding (ceremony and reception) and then a Chinese Banquet later on. How did you choose who to invite to which reception? Are there people that you invited to both? Or do you let people choose?
Post # 3
Most of the weddings I have been invited to, I was invited to the Western ceremony/reception, as well as, the Chinese banquet. I believe the bride either invited everyone from the Western wedding to the Chinese banquet, because the Western wedding’s guest list is usually much smaller than the banquets or she invited only the Asian people. But I believe non-asian people will enjoy the Chinese banquet just as much, if not more, because it is a new experience.
Our situation is a little different in that our western wedding is in NY and the chinese banquet is in HK. So there will be very little overlap in invitations, other than the parents and the bridal party.
I would say if it is within your budget to invite people to both, then it would be a great gesture. but don’t stress too much if it’s not.
Post # 4
i’m also having an americanized wedding reception and a chinese banquet, but my situation is a little different. i’m having the american reception out of state a month before my chinese banquet where i live. the out of state wedding is to accommodate his parents’ friends. the chinese banquet where i live is for our friends and my parents’ friends. we invited both families and of course the wedding party to both of receptions. additionally, there were really close family friends who were invited to both as well.
Post # 5
thanks ladies! my situation is that i couldn’t invite everyone to the americanized wedding because the venue is smaller so everyone wouldn’t be able to fit and the cost per person is much more. i thought i could save some money by inviting people to the chinese reception instead, but was worried if their feelings would be hurt.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2007 - Ceremony at a cement and stained glass cathedral and reception at a boutique hotel ballroom
Hi Fifi, I had a western wedding/chinese banquet also. they were in the same general area and one day apart. for our western reception, basically the guest list was our closest family members plus all of our friends. for the Chinese banquet, we invited only our closest friends (the bridal party and a small handful of others) along with all of our family, second cousins, family friends, parent’s coworkers, ect. The overlap of the two were only our bridal party and our closest family members.
hope that helps!
Post # 7
Hi Fifi, I’m wondering if you are still going with a small Americanized wedding and Chinese banquet. I was having the same issue–people’s feelings being hurt. The conclusion we came up with is to turn the Americanized wedding into a really fancy rehearsal dinner–that way we can invite whoever we want since I don’t think anyone ever cried about not being invited to the rehearsal dinner, and we can invite as many people as there are chairs in a banquet hall for the Chinese banquet. It also seems to make most sense for the older folks who need to see us get married and not just celebrate it with us, and I can rest easy to know that we won’t have to hear, "So when did you get married?" And the loose-lips that sink ships of my grandma’s, "Oh, yes, they got married yesterday. It was beautiful; why weren’t you there?" Good luck! 🙂
Post # 8
I guess we’re doing the opposite? We figured since we’re only inviting close friends and family to the rehearsal dinner (and that we would want those same people at the Chinese banquet as well) that we would skip the traditional rehearsal dinner and do the banquet that night.
Post # 9
We are having a Chinese banquet and an Americanized ceremony & reception, but they are in two different states. The guest list for the Chinese banquet includes all family including all extended family and friends of family. My FI and I only invited a handful of local friends to the banquet and the total is about 500 people. For the Americanized wedding, we are inviting all close friends and family–hopefully around 150 guests. There is absolutely no way we could have only one wedding.
Post # 10
We wanted to have it close around the same time as our wedding, because so many people would need to travel. Family was spread from europe to asia.
We were thinking of having our rehearsal dinner be a chinese banquet, however part of the groom’s family, was not used to the chinese culture, might have issues dealing with traditional chinese food and chopsticks. Instead my parents hosted the dinner a couple days after the wedding, where it’s traditional for the couple to go visit the bride’s family.