Post # 1
We are getting married in Puerto Rico where all our family live. We been living in Massachusetts for the last three years and working at the same school for two years. We have great friends here. We invited a close group of our friends to our wedding but Puerto Rico in July is really expensive and almost all of them cant make them and I dont blame them.
One of my really good friend in school gave me the idea to make a simple second reception here so all of our friends can go. She even offer her house (that is beautiful) as the venue.
First of all, I dont know how to do this. Have anybody done this?? Or have been to a second reception?? How does it work?? You think is a good idea?? Please I need some advice.
Post # 3
you treat it like you would if you were just having a private ceremony – the invites would say something along the lines of “please join us in celebrating our nuptuals” indicating that the ceremony itself already occured.
Post # 4
I think it would work, and I like the idea, if you treat it more like a party and less like a wedding reception. Keep it laid back and informal, since you already had your wedding anyway! That would keep the cost down.
Mrs. Mary Jane did this. She had a really small courthouse wedding, and then her in-laws threw her and Mr. Mary Jane a picnic/bbq at a later date. Look at her recap posts for ideas!
Post # 5
I think it is a wonderful idea! It will give everyone who can’t attend the expensive wedding a chance to celebrate with you! It might be a little more money for you to budget for (depending on how you want it- decorations, caterer, cake, etc). But I think it is worth it!
Post # 6
We had two receptions; a small simple evening reception after our early summer evening wedding and an informal pig roast the next day. It was awesome!
Post # 7
my friend is thinking of a casual but pretty BBQ…
@gcwest thanks for the information. i will look for the mary jane post
Post # 8
My FSIL did this for her wedding.. ironically they got married in PR also. They had a small beach ceremony with close family and friends there, and then about 3 weeks later they had a HUGE reception back home. I’m talking like actual reception venue, 3 course meal and wedding cake.. and she wore a different wedding dress. I wouldn’t recommend you go that extreme, it was kind of weird. Nevertheless, it was fun and the whole family was able to celebrate, even though most weren’t there when they actually got married.
I think the pretty BBQ or catered reception at your friends house sounds like a great idea.
Post # 9
We did that. Because we are a same-sex couple, we had to go to MA (where we knew almost no one) to get married. We had a few close friends and family members at the ceremony, and took them all out to lunch at Legal Sea Foods afterward. However, our big reception was back in DC. We had a video of the ceremony, heavy hors d’oeuvres, live music, dancing, an open bar, wedding cake, a chocolate fountain, and a DIY “photobooth.” Both of us wore our wedding dresses. It gave us a chance to celebrate with all our friends without dragging them all 8 hours away.
Post # 10
We’re doing two receptions since the majority of fiance’s family can’t make the trip to where we’re getting married (near my family). Fiance’s mother is throwing it and calling it a “Mr. and Mrs. Party” which I’d never heard before but think is cute. It’s going to be very informal, semi-potluck but I’m really excited about it. We basically get to have two completely different wedding receptions. And I get to wear my wedding dress twice!
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu
we’re also doing an at-home ‘after party’. im going to send out more informal invites for it later, since i didnt mention it on the cermony invite. 🙂 that’s really nice of your friend to offer her house to you!