Post # 1
Here’s the dealio.
My FI and I are planning on having a small wedding, as in 70 people or less. My immediate family is big (7 siblings, with 4 spouses, and 9 children all-together). We are planning on having a church ceremony and a reception following. My parents really want my FI and I to invite my extended family, but I don’t particularly want them there because we want a small wedding AND because I don’t ever see any of them/talk to any of them/they don’t really know me and none of them have ever met my FI. And also because my Dad’s side of the family is Italian AKA lots of relatives. My Dad himself has 6 siblings and they are all married with kids, and their kids have spouses and they have kids too!
My parents are really hardcore about us inviting them though and it’s creating a lot of conflict. I thought maybe a viable compromise was having a second reception where we can invite all of them and have it at my parent’s home because there is plenty of room and we can have a BBQ, something simple.
Is that a bad idea? Could it solve everyone’s beef and we could all be happy?! I feel like I can’t have a small wedding AND my parents be happy. Is this a potential solution?
Post # 3
Hi, i had been thinking about this very same thing as a way of saving money. Mom has 11 siblings and dad’s side the same. All of them have kids that are my cousins that are married with kids!
so I thought an option would be to have the wedding early, invite everyone to the ceremony and a cake and punch and maybe some appetizers and then leave with my and sO’s immediate family and our closest friends to our main reception! At a nice restaurant, hotel or venue.
In our case, tomorrow I’ll check some date availability at our venue of preference, but if plan A fails for some reason, this is what I’d do!
Post # 4
I would say it’s a solution. I’ve been considering doing a post-wedding party for the rest of the people that couldn’t come, after the honeymoon.
Post # 5
We can’t invite everyone to our wedding because we are getting married in a small campsite…we are going to have a BBQ/potluck/whatever you want to call it the day following the wedding. We are only having a late short short ceremony and then a bonfire and s’mores bar so no real reception, so I think the BBQ is the best option for inviting more people.
Post # 6
@Rchicklets: Not a bad idea at all! We are having two receptions because our families are in completely different countries so we don’t expect one entire family to travel halfway around the world for the ceremony, so we are having a tiny ceremony (my mother, daughter, and his parents) and then a reception for my friends and family, and the same for him where he lives. Both of them casual BBQ style type things. Nothing fancy, just a nice celebration so everyone can be included 🙂