Post # 1
In Ukraine where I grew up, proposals were usually done without rings, but every married couple had wedding bands. When I moved to the US, I learned about engagement rings, but thought that they complement rather than replace wedding bands. For Fiance and me, it went without saying that we would buy wedding bands for us both, even though he had already proposed with an engagement ring. From what I’ve seen on blogs and forums, it seems like this is pretty standard.
But when I showed my friend a photo of a wedding band I liked, she started asking me why I would want one if I already had an e-ring. She said having two rings was cumbersome and unnecessary, and all the married women she knew only wore their e-rings. I am freaking out a little- I thought it would be nice to wear two rings together?
Post # 3
I say wear 2 rings! I’m wearing 2 wedding bands around my e-ring. That’s strange to me that your friend said that, I’ve always seen 2 rings together.
Post # 4
Most people (in my experience in the US) wear 2 together, because 1 ring here typically means engaged not married. Whereas 2 rings = married. But alot of people have them melded together by the jeweler so they don’t “feel” cumbersome. :o)
Post # 5
It is very common to have two rings… in fact that is the only thing I know of people doing! You may want to wear just your wedding band occasionally like at the gym, etc. But most of the time you will want both bands. They are different from each other, so it is appropriate to have both!
Post # 6
as completely lovely and perfect as my e-ring looks on its own, it looks at home with my eternity wedding band. Originally, i thought I might separate them and wear my e-ring on my right hand, but no way. Only would take it off if I wanted to just wear my wedding band, if I was in a place that could snag the ring easily. Wear what makes you happy! For me the more rings the better 🙂
Post # 7
Well, I wear three rings so I’m probably not the best person to ask 😉 I think it’s all a matter of personal preference. I have some girlfriends that only wear their e-ring because they like the way it looks better, and then I have other friends that wear their e-ring with a wedding band (or, in my case, with two wedding bands). I think that if you want a wedding band, you should go for it! Don’t let your friend make you feel bad about it- it’s whatever you and your Fiance are comfortable with!
Post # 8
Two rings in the US is pretty standard and not considered cumbersome.
But, you should do what you like & want. If you want to wear both, go for it!
A friend of mine is French and she said typically French women wear their engagment/wedding rings seperatly. As in the wedding ring is on the left finger and the engagement is on the right ring finger, she doesn’t wear them together, but this is a personal decision b/c this is what she likes. 🙂
Post # 9
to me, wearing my wedding band with my e-ring is no more cumersome than was just wearing the e-ring. Feels exactly the same. Wear both!
Post # 10
Um i wear 3 rings and I don’t find them annoying at all.
I’m sure it’s weird to your friends, just like NOT having any e-ring at all is sort of unusual in the US. Go try some on and see. Get them thin if they feel weird to you.
But IMO you get used to them within a few hours anyways. Just like a new haircut!
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery
I think a lot of it depends on the culture you grew up in…I know it’s not always the same for every person either….I am going to have 2 bands surrounding my e-ring and I am sure to many it may seem like too much. I think you should do what you feel comfortable with…many women also choose to go with one band because they like the simplicity.
Post # 12
Two rings is what I have usually seen as well. If I have seen/heard of one ring it’s usually just the wedding ring, not just the engagement ring. If you want two rings, go for it!
Post # 13
Soldering is generally the answer to that questions. Tons of women do it and say it helps with the rings spinning, getting off center ect.
Post # 14
Two rings is pretty standard in the US and Canada. I will be wearing possible three rings. Right now I am wearing a promise ring and an engagement ring and then when we marry, I will wear the matching wrap.
This may change though because we are looking into maybe making each other our rings.
Post # 15
I’ve seen lots of both, one ring and two rings. I think whatever you prefer. I’m definitely going to wear both once I am married I like the look of the set, it’s like the before and after.